What were your parents' attitudes toward sex?

My parents have always been a bit more on the conservative side of things, but not irrational. They've both known, especially through first-hand experience, that sex is necessary for the human race. Here is what both of them said:

Just make sure it's safe. Use protection.

 

That's not even 'sex talk', that's just gross. At best it's 'girl talk'

 

That's the most G rated thing she says often. I won't go further into detail because this is a PG-13 forum. It's not a daily thing, but she's just comfortable with stuff like that. Personally, I don't even like when people know I have an upset stomach. I just don't talk about "personal" bodily matters like that without a que.

 

My parents shoved a couple of booklets under my nose and said if I had any questions they would answer them. The booklets cleared up a few things I hadn't learned from porn. When I asked about being attracted to boys they gave me the "it's just an exploration phase" talk. They said most teens grow out of it.

 

If you have sex outside of marriage, you will go to hell. If you even thought about another person in a sexual manner, you were lusting and would go to hell. So, they weren't very positive about it to say the least.

 

Yeah, my parents barely ever talked about it either. I had to learn everything as I grew up. All I got from them was "Don't do it before marriage." They never even mentioned masturbation. I literally didn't know what that was until after I did it the first time.

 

My mom gave the basic talk and a book about sex and puberty, and I remember her once saying that while she would prefer that I wait until marriage, I shouldn't marry a guy just for sex. The most she ever said about her own sex life was that sex really wasn't as great as people made it out to be. She also voiced disgust whenever sexual content appeared on TV.

The general message: Sex is over-hyped and gross.

Not that I cared, since I had little to no interest in it anyways. Plus, I was myself put off by most references to sex. The only time I wasn't was during The Black Swan...which probably should have told me something, but at the time I assumed I had simply matured enough to handle it.

 

My parents never mentioned anything about sex to me ever, though I wasn't raised in a conservative household. Neither of them made a fuss if my brothers and I witnessed an unexpected sex scene in a PG-13 or R-rated movie. We just didn't talk about it at all. Still don't.

I do vaguely remember my dad telling me that it was ok to discuss anything from relationships, to friends, to alcohol and sex if I needed advice but I never really took up the offer, and learned mainly everything from the internet and friends at school.

 

Once I came out as lesbian. As I got older, since parents were well aware of public school imprompto sex ed and media, started joking about lesbian sex and warning about orgies at all female sleepovers :dry:. Evolved from there. But never have had an honest sex discussion- Everything I know about having safe sex had to come from my own research. Not that I ever wanted to have them talk about it- for one, wrong gendered phrases would ensue.

 

My parents just said if you have sex you need to wear a condom, always and every single time.

Besides that nothing much else, just telling us to be safe.

 

Agnostic family, so no religious issues, but I think there were some bits and pieces left behind by my Baptist grandparents.

To put it shortly, I learned nearly everything about sex from the Internet (not from porn, thankfully!). Yet we (meaning my all-female immediate family) would all have circles where we talked about teh menz and teh cawk and stuff. Having remembered this recently, I asked my mother why she had never sat me down to have The Talk, to which she replied:

"I figured you wouldn't need to know until you got a boyfriend."

Let's put this into perspective: I have never had a boyfriend. Ever. And I'm 20. Just... what.

 

I never had any "sex talk" from either of my parents.

The first and only time the concept even came up was when I came out as bisexual to my mother and she responded by saying "how do you know?" and "make sure to do safe everything", but the word "sex" still was never mentioned by her. It felt very awkward and forced, she clearly didn't want to ever have to talk about a topic like safe sex.

 

They pretty much never gave me "the talk". I had to read a book to find that out. It was a book about human reproduction. Initially, I thought it wasn't true because I found that very disgusting at the time. It wasn't until I watched the puberty video in 5th grade when I found out it was true.

I didn't learn the concept of safe sex until 7th grade. They just talked to us about HIV/AIDs and other forms of STDs.

I learned even more about STDs last year. In 7th grade, they just gave us the general idea of STDs but last year, I learned even more about safe sex.

My parents decided to give me the talk a few months ago, and they were kinda freaked out that my school taught us about sex in school.

I guess when it comes to traditional asian parents, they're more conservative about the topic of sex while we're kinda open about sex talk with friends. LOL I don't even know how to say the word "sex" in my home language.

 

My dad never spoke to me about it and even now he won't talk about it around me, which I'm just fine with.

For the longest while when I was younger my mom was very big on pushing the whole "don't have sex before marriage" thing at me at every turn. We'd sit down to talk and if it came up then all you heard was "don't have sex before marriage, it's a sin." Then as I got older and into my later years of high school it changed to "use protection" which kinda freaked me out a little since she'd never been one to even insinuate I would have sex before marriage.

Now she denies she ever said such a thing about using protection if I had sex outside of marriage, but as for having any talk about it or anything there was never any of that outside of what I just mentioned above.

 

Sex didn't seem to exist for my parents. My mom claimed I asked her where babies came from when I was 4 and she gave me a fairly clinical explanation (she was a nurse), but I really don't recall it. Which is funny, because I remember just about everything.

I DO remember, being both the oldest child and the oldest of over 30 grandchildren, that people were forever having babies (and nursing them without inhibition), which makes the lack of sex very amazing! I realized as I got older (MUCH older) that there was some coded talk that I was way too dense to pick up on, and they did make a point to keep us from shows like Three's Company or The Love Boat that we "too adult"!

My mom gave me an opening or two to come out to her, which either was so subtle or else I was so thick-headed that I didn't realize until a good 20 years after her early death. I'm still researching the possibility that she had a child out of wedlock before she and Dad married (not his, either), which might account for some of her behavior. And as my dad got older, he spilled more and more, like the couple of gay men who made passes on him in the army--which, interestingly, didn't seem to faze him very much. Add all that to the fact that I was pretty un-social and naïve, and it's no wonder it took me so many years to accept being gay.

 

Sex was (still is) a normal subject, like anything else and there were no secrets for me and they were both very good in answering questions too. And still are.

 

Yeah, I suppose that's a pretty solid springboard into the topic. I think my parents are just plain awkward about sex :lol:

It's interesting you mention public school. I went to a Catholic high school and of course there was sex ed and being an all boys school, even some teachers made the odd sex joke or contributed to the banter that goes on.
My brother, however, goes to a state high school and it just seems that he really has no issue talking about the topic itself, in a very open and frank manner.

 

When I was 8 my dad thought it would be smart to tell me what sex was. So now I know and my parents were always asking me if I was having sex. Of course not!! But now they don't because I came out to them.

 

never happens usually its Sharron my dads wife who is grate to talk to they sent her once about changing the bed sheets maybe keeping the window open more let some air in .