Transgender Q&A

A lot of self reflection and soul searching.

For me, the moment that things finally "clicked" and I understood that I am indeed a male is the moment when I realized that I don't have to prove that I am one. Ever since I can remember my mental image of myself has been male. I feel uncomfortable as female and comfortable as male. That's enough for me.

I want these breasts gone and want a penis.

Removing the breasts are both more important (because they insert themselves into my awareness a lot more) and more realistic (considering current surgical options) than getting a penis.

 

Exoskeleton,

Thank you for your reply. That honestly helps me quite a bit. At least I know I'm approaching my situation from a good angle.

 

Woah! Let's back this discussion up.

How *do* orgasms feel as a female as compared to a male? Has anyone who has gone FTM experienced a difference in their orgasms?

Seriously, girlunwound you're going to make me jealous and make me wonder what I'm missing.

 

So PG-13, and I usually skip step 1 because it makes me feel lousy (honestly it feels really weird saying this because I don't like talking about "the darn thing" but it's usually flaccid and tucked away through the whole process), but here is a link:

How To Externally Stimulate Prostate | Made Manual

In a nutshell, there is a way for male bodied people to simulate sex the way a girl has it.

It's probably also good for you to know in case you or your partner doesn't like to be penetrated anally

 

Hmmmm. Um, well... This isn't what I meant at all, but OK :icon_bigg

As I said earlier, everyone's experience is different, although this one topic seems to be fairly universal.

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Pretty much right on, as far as my own experience. It's a totally different orgasm, not based on ejaculation but one that encompasses the entire body. Hard to describe, really, but that's the best I can do.

 

Well it's never really gonna be fully functioning. Because it will never produce sperm and seen as that is the point of them, no
Its can be fully(well averaged) sized though.
if you choose to get a phalloplasty, skin will be taken from your arm and made into a penis shape, your urethra directed so you can pee out of it and the remaining skin from the 'old' area made into testes. One of which won't be real so that the guy can use it to 'pump' himself up if he wants an erection
It all done over the course of about a year and a half and about 4 operations, well it is in the UK anyway, America and other places may be different

Sorry it was so graphic,didn't know how else to explain it

 

I've heard some people will not get surgery, but I personally want everything changed. Everything.

 

From my understanding it varies from person to person. Some non-binary people label themselves as gay or straight based on their biology and the biology of those they are attracted. Others, like me, base it on which of the binary genders they identify more closely with. I, for example, am more female than male, so when I'm trying to describe my orientation to cishets, I will often just say gay. I've also heard of the usage you describe. The best thing to do, if you absolutely need to know what a non-binary person means by straight or gay, is to ask them individually what the label means to them.

 

(*hug*) I know the feeling, my friend.

 

I think the moment I realized I was trans* was just asking myself "Would I actually be happy if I had to be a woman the rest of my life?" The answer was a resounding "Hell no!"

I'm still doubting and questioning myself but being a guy is the most natural conclusion I have for who I am. I realized at one point that my agnonizing and worried questioning about being transgendered almost completley echoed the process I undertook in order to figure out my sexuality. And considering I had accepted my sexuality with ease and it hadn't "just been a phase", I said "what the hell" and let myself, for the first time, consider the possibility that I could be a man.

As far as getting tetosterone goes, there are informed consent clincs where you'll be able to get horomones, so long as you're informed of the possible health risks. Not sure what's in your area, mind, but it's worth looking into.

 

Does anyone have info on T implants? I'm thinking about going that route since I'm a big baby when it comes to needles and I'm probably going to be forgetful with patches, creams or gels.

 

I have a question. What do you put on gender? Because if it needs to match social security and legal documents and all that and also so they can do a background check. So how do you go about that?

 

I ponder suicide on a daily basis because I'm trans. Anyone have any advice on how to combat those feelings?

 

Well, no great advice, because yeah, suicidal thoughts still haunt me, pretty frequently, if less intense than they were pre-HRT. All I can say is try to keep a clear vision of your dreams and who you want to be and concentrate on making that person a reality and applying all your energy to achieving that goal. Isn't it at least better to try and fail (which you absolutely will NOT, btw) and go down with some fight left in you then to give up without ever knowing what could have been? I mean, I think so.

Like I said, suicidal thoughts are still with me. I won't lie and say that it isn't sometimes....a comfort? I guess you could say to know that I can get going if the going gets too rough. But I can also objectively say if I did that I would be a seriously fucked up bitch, and it would be wrong to me and to the people who care about me.

You are smart, handsome guy, and you are now on the path towards your dreams. Why not just see where this road takes you (*hug*)?

 

I still struggle with suicidal thoughts, tendencies and ideation on a near daily basis. I was asking my boyfriend if these thoughts will ever go away and he couldn't give me an answer. But I have a feeling they will subside or vanish once I'm able to transition. Until then I guess it's just focusing on my self-esteem with the help of those who accept me.