Is he gay or just...different?

First off, I'm glad I randomly checked in and got curious about this thread. I'm excited to see it went somewhere and am envious of your friend

From a moderate/heavy moderate fetisher's point of view (though I'm sure it varies from person to person) penetration doesn't mean squat to me. In fact, I'm hardly interested in it and think of it as more of a byproduct of kink fantasies of being tied up (again, just my point of view).

As a fetisher the object of the fetish is far more important - socks, feet, shoes, genitals - in that order. Case and point, I'm extremely lucky to have a straight friend with model feet. I finally leveled with him what I thought of his feet. He let me rub his feet and gave me the socks he was wearing. We've talked about it quite a few times - his girlfriend thinks it's cute, he thinks it feels good, and I completely get off on it after he leaves. Honestly, I find that satisfying - he's very attractive, but I respect his being straight and am perfectly fine with what we both consider a mutually satisfying series of encounters.

Going back to your question - he could feel that way for a few different reasons:

1) Like I stated above - satisfying the fetish is really enough - if I had a boyfriend, we'd have sex but really only because he wanted to or I was so wound up in ecstasy that I'd escalate it.

2) He's still struggling with being gay. I only came out a year ago myself and even then I'm not fully out. I had my first fetish encounter at third grade. As a child, I knew I liked it but it was easy to play off as a game. As I got older the desire remained though the encounters were less and less frequent. It was much easier to satisfy than homosexual activity though since the fetish didn't require another person (necessarily) Point is I grew reliant on the fetish being an outlet to the point that even though semi-out aside from some oral encounters, I have drastic reluctance to penetration but would start sucking toes, licking feet, and sniffing socks at slightest request.

3) He genuinely doesn't want penetration - I'd feel safe to assume there are some like that.

What I will say is this: I feel confident that any man on earth who wants to put another mans feet on his face, in his mouth, or near his crotch is doing so sexually. I've heard of one guy on a fetish sight I frequent that wants male feet but desires females sexually. For him, it was a kinky dominance thing. I'd say only he knows the truth of that.

FWIW - thank you for being open to it. I find it harder to talk about my fetish than I do coming out. I've thought of deleting this response a few times now. It's funny how you said it feels good - my straight friend loves it. Strictly as a massage to him, but all the same - he's glad I had the courage to approach him on it.

 

Thats really... Different! Hehe kinda weird. I dont know what to think! Gay or just weird?!