Were you interested in the opposite sex before you knew you were gay?

I wasn't really attracted to boys, I usually stuck around them as a friend, I could find guys good looking, but not enough to actually have a crush on them

until I was about 11 or something (I actually dun remember the age), I never really felt anything with boys as I did with girls, and then I just thought I was weird to be attracted to the females, but it just sunk in :icon_wink

 

Not really. I once had a girlfriend in kindergarten, but I don't think that counts. I've never felt the same way about girls as I have about guys.

 

When I was in high school, I went through a period where I thought I was asexual. And it freaked me out.

My female friends would constantly talk about how cute other guys were, & they'd talk about dating, etc, but I never felt the same way. I found myself just agreeing with them whenever they commented on guys, and I felt so left out & confused because I didn't understand why I wasn't interested in boys & avoided discussions about sex.

It got even worse when my friends began sexual relationships. I went into a lengthy period of depression. I really did feel as though something was wrong with me & maybe I was destined to never have sex (which made the depression even worse because I started imagining my whole life never experiencing love).

In the end, I did date a couple of guys, but nothing sexual ever happened because I just didn't feel attracted to them in that way. Given that, the relationships didn't last overly long, but I was never upset when they ended.

This whole time, I knew that I liked being around certain girls. I experienced butterflies for the first time when one of them came up & put her arm around my shoulders. But I never picked up that it was actually an attraction that I was feeling.

It was only a few years after highschool, that I literally sat myself down & tried to sort out what was going on. It wasn't easy coming to terms with my feelings. To be honest, I was terrified when I realised I was a lesbian. But only then did I start noticing other women in a sexual way, & I immediately felt alot more comfortable & relieved that I finally knew why I felt so different to my friends about boys.

Not sure if any of that helped, but I figured I'd share my own experience in case it rings similar to what you're going through :icon_wink

 

To be honest.... I didn't have time to be intrested in the other sex, I wasnt confused about my sexuality for very long and although I didn't accept it straight away I was never truly attracted to the opposite sex...

 

I don't feel that i was ever sexually attracted to females, but after high school i did try and pursue a relationship based on a close friends personality, it was a dumb thing to do, and didn't go anywhere, and looking back on it that should have been one of my 'red flag' moments that i was gay.

 

Nope, I wasn't interested in romance full stop.

I used to think it was really stupid and sappy and believed that I would spend my teenage years just not caring. Looking back, I now think that's because I wasn't attracted to guys and hadn't realized that I was attracted to girls. So I thought I was attracted to neither, but that the right kind of feelings would come later / when I was older.

 

I never had more than a fake crush on girls.

 

i just recently can out as being bi but i always woundered why i thought Girls were so hot now i know

 

well at first, 8-9 ish, i started noticing that i liked girls, in a weird way though. it never seemed that i could picture myself with a girl, i always saw them as friends. so then i became very confused until i was about 12. at 12, i noticed that my relationship with guys was different than other guys. So really, i wasnt interested in girls in THAT way, but i was/am guys

 

I was interested in dating girls. I was always kind of the good guy though. I always heard guys talking about how a girl had a rocking body or what they would "do to her," and it just didn't connect to me. I was like, who cares about that stuff? Isn't the person inside more important.

Now when I think about guys it makes sense though lol

 

I really wanted to date this one guy who I had a total crush on. I wasn't really attracted to him sexually, as I wasn't with any other guy after I got over him, but I thought he was really funny and had pretty eyes. But guys just don't do it for me I guess lol

 

I dated the opposite sex for about ten years, but I wouldn't go so far as to say I was interested. It was mostly half-hearted camouflage or earnest attempts to escape reality, depending on the situation.

Mostly I felt romantic attraction to both sexes growing up, I just focused my reciprocation on the men and assumed whatever I felt for women was strong friendship.

But whenever a guy got me in a compromising position, it was like having someone throw a bucket of cold water in my face. I pretty much realized I might be not-oriented-to-dudes when I thought about how much I had to fake "getting into it" with guys. No matter how much I liked a guy as a friend, they could not get me wound up in bed.

At first I thought it was just because the guys I was sleeping with weren't that good, but I recognized that their basic moves were sound, they just weren't doing a damned thing for me.

^ Me too.

Unfortunately, personality isn't everything. Genitals do come into play at some point. :lol:

 

Yeah I used to think I was straight (When I was alot younger but I sometimes liked guys too :s), and at some point I thought I was bi but now I just feel different about things ... I don't even know if I like either gender in that way anymore but I just describe my orientation as gay or gay asexual.

 

I had a few (kind of dysfunctional) relationships with guys. The very last of which was with a guy whose personality I was very much in love with. And he admitted to me later that he was going to ask me to marry him. If I hadn't realized at the time that I did that I'm gay....well, I'd be engaged to be married right now. The thought is both sad and terrifying.

 

I was never attracted to girls. In my preteens I knew I was going to start dating soon and once marry; that wasn't a conscious thought, it was just so. I had no idea how that would work, how I would find someone attractive and why on Earth I would ever want to kiss a girl, but I understood that it will come with time. And yet, at that very age, I already had crushes on guys and never realized it. So the teens went by and I thought "ok, I'm not that interested, there's plenty of time to mature". Then I went to university and suddenly everybody around me was in relationships. So I thought "ok, so I'm asexual, my libido is extremely low, everything from AVEN just fits, ok, great". And so I graduated, found a job and life went on. Then one day a friend sent me on a blind date with a girl. And I felt like crying and vomiting and screaming all at once. Then I went on another blind date and I thought I would die later. I was a lost cause.. beautiful girls both times and I.. just.. a lost cause. All through all those years, preschool, school, college and later, I practically continuously had a crush on some boy. And never realized it till a year and a half ago. And now it seems right. Now I see why on Earth or any other planet I would want to kiss a guy

 

i thought i was interested in guys but i think that when I thought about sex i would focus on me instead of him... yeah i did think i was asexual for a little then I realized that i would love to focus on both me and the other person if that person was a girl

 

Nope... got drunk and made out with a few girls in effort of turning straight, and for that reason only really...

Even before I had my first, and only official, gf in like 8th grade (as official as that gets lol), I knew I was gay by then (couldn't stop checking out some of the other guys in the locker room after PE, does that make me a perv? always wondered that... ), and it messed with me because she REALLY liked me and would always try starting a makeout session with me (slut! JK JK!) and I played along a couple times when I ran out of excuses, and wondered how anybody could possibly like the act of kissing afterwords... then I found out I liked kissing boys a couple years later... I really felt bad not being able to tell her why I didn't want to be bf/gf because we always got along well and everything, she asked if I was gay after we graduated HS but I was still a mile deep in denial (somehow), she deserves to know now I think... she reallllly liked me for several years... ugggh I feel shady lol...

 

Yea with my ex. She was the best and I really loved her. Just not in a sexual way though so maybe I was mistaking it for a romance when it was more of a friendship (or even a sibling) kind of love.

 

Yeah, I know when a boy's attractive, but I don't feel anything for them. During the holidays there was this guy, and I would've been into him, and we kissed, but it meant nothing to me, so I gently let him down. Afterwards. I felt so guilty. But before I realized I was gay, no, I haven't been attracted to guys. Yeah, I pretended to like someone, just because everyone seemed to have a crush and I didn't want to be left out.