Girl I'm into replied "Who's this?" to my text...should I believe her or forget her

I asked if their game was still on. She answered yes and asked "Who's this?". I stated my name and wrote "Dam!"

Her: Oh sorry. Got a new phone and lost all contacts.
Me: Oo girl you can't come back from that one lol
Her: I know haha
Me: Lmao new phone. Girl be direct like u said you were (I didn't believe her)
Her: Yes, I fell in the delta
Me: Lol it's all good
Her: Lost all my pics
Me: No np. I'm half serious almost always. Just figured u weren't much of a texter. Hope you all win again.
Her: We better win.
Me: I'm sure you will.
Her: We got by 4 to win by 4.
I didn't reply to this.

I had thought that her prior texts were short and uninviting - they didn't lead to further conversation... So I straightaway assumed the worst here - that she was wanting me to take the hint and stop bothering her. And she made up a lie because she didn't know how to admit this.

She was friendly when I saw her earlier that day at work though. She was talking and laughing with me, joking about giving me her daughter if something happened to her on her skydiving trip, telling others only I was allowed to say what I had said to her (she didn't laugh when some guy followed up on what I said and another pointed that out), offered some of her snack to me. After showing me a pic of her daughter and saying something about her, I said her daughter was going to end up like me...and she said "girl I hope she ends up like you!". I didn't expect that. In person, she was legit acting like a friend. Every now and then she says "girl you know you love me" and "girl you know I love you". But I leave with negative feelings after texting with her and there are occasions where she acts uninterested and unavailable at work but I try to assume she's just busy in the moment. She never asks anything personal about me though -I don't feel she'd ever sit and listen- so I can believe that she's not interested in being friends.

Another option I considered was that the person asking "who's this?" was her boyfriend. They have a kid together but aren't married. I was told they are having a lot of problems and she's just trying to stay for their kid. She did also used to really flirt with me but I think she's trying to work on her relationship now and has mostly stopped. This option seems less likely.

Should I believe her? I feel mad thinking she's playing me for a fool. I'm having trouble believing her story. I think she deleted me... and you only delete someone's information because you're done with them. Do I delete her number so I can move on and resist the urge to text her?

 

I believe she suspects or knows that I'm bi...and I did give her a small gift on her bday whereas most people at work probably did not. So I considered that the "who's this?" was an attempt to get me to back off.

Even if you were in a broken relationship you were trying to fix? Is it possible she was interested but trying to cut me out so as to improve her current relationship?

And is she likely not even interested in being friends? I know you obviously would never delete the number of someone you're into and want to be with...but what about a friend? Would you ever delete a potential friend's number? I was ok with being friends but this indicates to me that she doesn't even want me as that.

 

Considering the fact that we had texted a few times in the last couple weeks, she had to have known that I would likely text her again sometime soon...Our last text had been less than a week ago. Did she intentionally set herself up for this? She's just too old to be playing games...She's 33. I'm just so confused. Thinking I came on too strong and she's telling me to back off...This thought is embarrassing.

What is a "trigger" crush? I don't have her number memorized and I'm attracted to her - but I did save it straight away. I did want to be friends. Though I was into her, I wasn't interested in breaking up her relationship and starting off at the messy end of her longterm relationship. Deleting my number means she doesn't want to be friends, right? There are acquaintances whose number I wouldn't delete. I figure you only delete the people you've fallen out of contact with.

 

Do you think she is more likely playing games and intended for me to react like this?

 

I don't know...I can't see her being concerned with playing games.

I think she feels bad. Saw her tonight at a candle lighting for someone who'd passed. She had apparently been crying a little. I didn't look at her or approach her tonight. At the end, I walked quickly to get in my car, and she was standing in a group just about 12-15 feet from my car. She just kept her head turned towards me and watched me as I got in my car, backed out and drove off...seemingly waiting to see if I'd look at her. I didn't make any eye contact during this but her head was obviously turned and looking right at me as others in her group carried on talking. I looked in my rear view and saw her head still turned towards me and watching me drive off. Because I wasn't looking, I didn't see her expression as she watched me. She might have felt bad because she knew she'd offended me or she might have been confused...who knows, she may even have been standing there smirking.

So here we go...If something's bothering me, I'm not great at acting like we're ok. No, I don't know how to act right now. This is where I usually completely ruin a friendship - I close off. If things were actually ok between us, I could have just ruined it by ignoring her tonight. Though there were so many people, I could easily say I just didn't see her if she brings this up.

 

I'm not playing games...I would consider that intentional. Because I don't know what's going on or how to deal with it, I feel inclined to stay away at the moment. After all this, I think she needs to be the one to initiate conversation -because I fear I've come on too strong and she wants me to back off= and I want to just see how she acts towards me.

 

So you're thinking she's not even a friend or interested in being friends.

 

The problem with that is that you put an end to any sexual tension and begin to develop their platonic feelings. I like them to think it's a possibility in the event that they are indeed interested in me.