True bisexual men, I have no qualms with dating or being with. Just, when people use it as a term of bi-curiosity, usually those people are not looking for an actual relationship. Just have to be careful on who they are, as with anything you do.
I read all of your post. I've had a couple of negative situations this way. Again, with me, someone can do the math - very conventional, yet never married. I went to college with a gay guy who I really enjoyed as a friend, and we hit it off as friends right away, but when he entered the workforce, worked for a place where he could be out, and got into a relationship and a new circle of friends, I went by the wayside. I also knew a guy who, again, I had a generic fondness for because we were so similar in so many demographic factors, and he is single. He kept our interactions to a business only level, though he was chummy and cliquish with a few people who had worked there longer. Basically, he seemed very uncomfortable and edgy around me, and seemed to rebuff my friendliness toward him. I was only interested in being a friend. I don't feel like taking on a different persona to keep or make these friends. Especially if it's just to be friends.
Hypothetical situation: A bisexual guy asks me out. My thoughts: Wow, omg, a guy wants to date me. !!!!!!
Followed by: (But who wants to date me? This is stupid, I'll probably suck at this relationship thing. Oh, and what about sex? How do I tell him I'm trans? And I don't even know if I'd like sex. And I hate sleeping in beds with people. This is stupid. See, this is why I prefer cats to humans. Oh no, oh no, oh no.) ^The mental processes I would anticipate having if I were asked out.
I would date a bisexual guy, there's no reason not to. It could lead to some pretty funny situations though, given bisexual erasure. People wouldn't be used to a guy ogling hot girls and being told off by his boyfriend. :lol:
This thread makes me want to cry happy tears for all my fellow bi's out there (&&&) Thanks all of you
While a slight diversion,I just wanted to throw it out there that I think bisexuals and trans* people can and should be natural allies. Many of us love you, and I know that often you feel out of place and need to be wanted. Many of us do want you. OMG, Gen, you have knives? <3 ~ Adrian
You're right, sort of. Take a bicurious guy who vastly prefers girls: he's interested in guys, but his attraction to girls is so overwhelming, he'd only be able to have relationships with them. Obviously this is by no means guaranteed but the logic makes sense to me: I've messed around with girls but I probably wouldn't consider dating them. And I just say I'm gay to make things easier. That probably doesn't make sense at all.
I'm pretty sure I'm gay, so I'll go ahead and respond. I've only been with one person in my life, my current boyfriend, and he's just plain gay. As for a bisexual guy, as long as he's not cheating and he's honestly attracted to me and interested in me, it's not an issue. And to clarify, I'm not saying they're more likely to cheat, that goes for anyone. If I was straight and with women, it would be the same.
I have zero problems with them. There seems to be a stigma with them in the gay community. They either think they are just gay in denial, that they will leave you for a woman or they are more likely to cheat on you. Which is pretty stupid in my opinion, and its disappointing.