I have a girl on social medias that I've only talked to a couple times because we knew each other through mutual friends. She's recently been sharing a lot of thing that i can relate to and i can tell based on her account and what she's posted that her (ex) boyfriend recently cheated on her. i've been through that multiple times and i know how it feels. i also know that when i was going through that i definitely would've appreciated someone (even if i barely knew them) reaching out to me just to give me some support and tell me they understand. so, i'm wondering would it be weird at all for me to message this girl just to remind her she's beautiful and she deserves the best and she's not alone. would appreciate any feedback on this!
Welcome to EC Letta. I would definitely contact her to give her support. However I wouldn't mention her ex-boyfriend. She could still be in a rough place and resent anyone getting in her business. You may appreciate someone reaching out to you but she may not. Just text her your support and love. If she opens up about her ex-boyfriend then you can be there for her. If not then let it be. I have been guilty of overwhelming and showering people with unconditional love and kindness when it wasn't asked for or wanted. Even to this day and I have to break that habit. Needless to say I stuck my nose where it didn't belong and I hurt the people I tried to help.
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Hey I definitely think it would be nice to offer your support. Just start with a couple of friendly messages and then let he take the lead with how much she wants to share. U
