I'm a girl (16) who's confused with my romantic orientation because I can't tell the difference between a girl crush/strong admiration and wanting to pursue someone romantically. There's this girl in my class- I get really excited to see her (though we're not friends) and super nervous when we make eye contact or talk. But it could be the fact that I think her style is really cool and am attracted to her because I admire her bright personality. What are some signs that I really like her?
Hey there. Welcome to EC. As for your crush, I suppose it depends on if you daydream about romantic/dating stuff with her. If you haven’t already, if you think about it now, does it appeal to you? Give you the warm and fuzzies? Has it happened with anyone before? Girls? Female athletes or celebrities? You do sound, at least a bit, drawn to her. There’s no rush to figure it out all right this second ;] but doing thought experiments could help you narrow down where your attractions lie. Do you people watch? Any one type of person grab your attention more often than others? You’ve got this. :}
I feel like a teenager around my crush. I can only say what it was like for me so it may not apply to you... I knew instantly I liked this women... I felt drawn to her. I loved being around her. I like her voice. I would initiate communication and mention random pointless things. I was so happy to see her when she came over and felt compelled to touch her. I didn't know about the touch barrier thing so...? Plus I dont touch people anyway... So this was different for me. I did ask for a hug and she said yes. She reciprocated and hugged me again. We went on a non date - coffee... We had the usual signs, smiling loads, leaning in... I fidget and keep touching my hair which is a sign apparently? I miss her when she is not around and I want to talk to her... Maybe talk to her and see how things go?
Also... I am in my mid 30s so it can happen anytime. I don't feel my age .. I still don't know what my romantic orientation is.. I am pretty obvious with the way I am. My crush knows I like her .... I am waiting to meet her again in time following my break up etc (I was in along term relationship with a guy)
Adi Jeann.....Hello and a great big LGBTQIA+ welcome to Empty Closets! I can remember the first post that I made on EC. I was desperate for help and I got the help that night that I so needed. I hope that we can help you in the same way that I received help. The most important thing to remember about Empty Closets is that we do care about you! We're very glad that you found us here on EC and hope that we can answer questions, give you support and provide a place to vent (as long as it's not violent!) when that becomes necessary! *****There are 18 different sub-forums here that you can check out and join in the conversations or start your own thread/conversation. When I first joined Empty Closets I was in need of a lot of support and encouragement and I found it here…EC is a safe place. I hope that you'll find good things here too! Folks here will talk to you and share...you don't have to be afraid of asking questions...we're glad to have you! Empty Closets is all about making connections and giving LGBT folks a voice when they otherwise don't have one in their day-to-day lives. In particular you may want to check out the forum that is titled "Sexual Orientation”, there are people there who may have dealt with some of the same kind of issues that could be challenging you. Sometimes it is difficult to tell the difference between liking someone or liking the way they dress or their personality. There are times when it's a fine line between wanting to be like someone and wanting to be with someone. Some info on how to navigate EC: When you have made at least 10 posts on various threads you will be able to post messages on a member's Profile Page. Just click on a member's Avatar Picture and then click on "Profile Page" in the dialogue box that pops up. You'll then be on their Profile Page and there will be a box that says: "Write Something" When you have been on EC for a few weeks and have made at least 50 posts on various forums, you can apply for Full Membership. A Full Member can send Private Messages (PM) to other Full Members and share personal contact info. Right now you can only send a PM to a Staff Member as that is always possible. Here is a quote from the Full Membership information forum: *****To be eligible you must be a member of Empty Closets for a minimum of two weeks, and have a minimum of 50 posts. These posts must be across numerous forums (Fun & Games does not contribute to post count), and consistently posted across a minimum of two weeks. You wouldn't be eligible, for example, if you registered, had no activity for two weeks, and then returned to post 50 times on your 14th day of membership. *****Well, as I said, we're very glad you found us! If you have any questions at all, you can always send me a Private Message. .....David
