I am recently separated from my wife (female straight) and my kids and my grandkids. Due to being forced out by an extortionist sending pics/videos/private chat screenshots. I accepted to myself (after 40 years of denying and suppressing) that I am gay. That was about a year ago. Now that my secret is public I desperately want to respond in a healthy way and move forward with my life as a gay man. If you know of a site, book, group, etc., please lmk. Thanks so much!
Is there an lgbt resource centre in your area? Maybe check it out. Even if it’s a bit of a distance, within reason, it could put you in contact with a number of support options. And I don’t know when Pride is held in your area but maybe check it out. At the outdoor festival here, there are always booths from different societies amongst the vendor booths. The main, queer community centre, a men’s support organization, non-primary health providers and the like, etc. Or if church is your thing, you could look around for an accepting one. I just drove by a Korean one near me today (I know, a bit niche but hey…) that had obvious rainbow signs affirming acceptance of all so if that’s your thing, it’s one avenue. Anyway, just a thought. Good luck!
You might find "Becoming Gay" by Richard Isay helpful. He was a gay psychiatrist who was married and then came out later in life.
I’ve just read The Marrying Kind? By Charles Neal. It’s a collection of 10 accounts of gay men who got married for a variety of reasons. I also enjoyed Finally Out by Loren A Olson. good luck with everything, that sounds wretched.
