when I first came out to my mom with my gender and chosen name which at the time was Rocky, she refused to call me Rocky and instead said she would call me Lo bc it was a shortened version of my birth name. She has not once called me Lo or used anything other than she/her pronouns. I feel uncomfortable bringing it up to her. I don't go by Rocky because of her and I still have a piece of my birth name left with me bc of her. She has the disrespect to not even use it. I'm sorry I needed to vent. Any suggestions welcome
That's so upsetting, some people it really feels like don't understand how it feels to be deadnamed. Do you at least get to go by Rocky with any friends?
Ahh i’m sorry to hear that it sounds incredibly frustrating and horrible! As mentioned above, do you at least get to go by Rocky with any of your friends? Did she give you a reason why she wouldn’t use your chosen name?
she wouldnt use my chosen name because it wasnt close enough to my deadname and i dont really use rocky anymore
oh right, i’m sorry she reacted like that it must’ve been horrible for you. do you have any other names you go by as well as Lo?
