I like both for their own reasons. Firstly: Giving is wonderful regardless of gender and, with anal sex: There's a depth that's often lacking with vaginal and remarkable tightness (particularly right around the ring). Most guys I've been with generally were hugely into that because of the prostate, though I've been with women who couldn't get enough of that. Secondly: With bottoming, there's the whole matter of anal pleasure, the prostate, and the ability to achieve orgasm hands free. The first guy I was with went crazy (he made some sounds I'd never heard come from a person) and when he did me, I understood why (he was slow and knew exactly where to put pressure). It wasn't until I was in college before I was with somebody who was over 9 inches like myself (he was actually thicker) and the continuous pressure on the prostate was almost unbearable, but in a good way.
I’ve been lucky enough to enjoy several hands free orgasms courtesy of bottoming. Wish it was all the time . The first time I could not believe the incredible sensations accompanying anal penetration. I thought I was going to pass out in ecstasy and then realized I was orgasming completely hands free. It was like nothing I had ever experienced before. I wish that feeling could last forever, two men joined in the most intimate of ways reaching heights of orgasm together as one sexual being.
Two men in love experiencing orgasmic union, deep penetration, bonded together in homosexual oneness..sounds beautiful
For me it was beyond beautiful it was the release of years and years of frustration and yearning for total sexual fulfillment. I truly felt as if we became one sexual being totally in sync and determined to push the bounds of sensuality and erotism to our limited. In my life I had never had multiple orgasms ever until then . Before that experience I had never felt a true connection with any women , it all seemed hollow lacking any real emotion and always thought those descriptions of mind blowing sex were things of porn. Boy was I proved wrong. It just took another man to show me how wonderfully satisfying and erotic being a homosexual can be. I think many gay men minimize the sexual component of our lives out of shame or some misguided ideas of heteronormative behavior rather than be open about the joys of two men in love.
My desire to express my homsexuality and love with another man is heightened by such beautiful expressions of the joys of gay sensuality, its beyond sex but also wrapped up within the desire to be joined with another man through anal sex if that makes sense, a fusion of the desire for love and sex.
The significant decision to engage in anal intercourse is one many gay men including myself face at one time or another as our gay sexuality evolves. In many instances this is the final major step in validating our homosexuality. I had assumed, It was all about sex but very quickly learned the it was more so an emotional event as well. To finally and totally give yourself to another man is both humbling and empowering. It’s scary and exhilarating all at same time. Breaking down those final barriers was incredibly emotional for me. I knew I had opened a door that could not and would never want to close. The closeness I left with another man goes way beyond just the sexual aspects of the act. It was and is a intimate connection both literal and figuratively that for me changed me dramatically. For the first time sex had a satisfying emotional component as well. The sex was incredible however the emotional aspects of it drove the pleasure to levels I had never experienced.
Yeah, I'm with you there. :/ I love what I have, I'd just like to be able to explore the rest of it, too.
Years ago, before marriage to a woman, I enjoyed this experience. It was wonderful to say the least. But afterwards there was shame and embarrassment instead of cuddling and kissing.
This is a sad commentary on the negative heteronormative brain washing we have all been exposed to. The embarrassment and shame are a direct result of that insidiously damaging indoctrination we are exposed to that teaches us that being with another man is some how sick and depraved. If they only knew how wonderfully fulfilling it is for us gay men!
Coming to gay sex after decades of hetero sexuality it took me quite some time to know what I desired in bed with a man. A pleasant journey of discovery I have to say. Somewhere along the way however I realized that having a guy really want my ass and me absolutely wanting to give it to him made me feel like a fully sexual being for the first time in my life. And then bottoming with someone that understood my desire and my body? Shit! I have had whole body orgasms while bottoming that I would feel for days. Oh. My. God.