Finally ready to try for relationship

So i think i might finally be in a place where i might be comfortable enough with myself to try and find a relationship of some kind. Ive been thinking quite alot about this for a while now. Ive got a job, getting close to having my drivers license, been going to the gym for a few months and im starting to feel something that resembles confidence. So since its been 5 years since i last did anything like this, im obviously very nervous especially since im now potentially looking for my first same sex relationship since "coming out" (kinda sorta, im working on it) as Bi.

So yea this is a pretty daunting, exciting and nervous thing im trying to do and most most certainly out of my comfort zone, but, i think i might be ready to at least try and look.

So i was wondering if anyone could give me any advice on what to do from here, i know that seems rather obvious/basic but as i said its been a long time for me and im not really sure where to start. Or maybe you could share some of your experiences so i know what to look out for/think about.

Sorry its a bit open ended, not really sure what i need. Unfortunately i dont really have anyone friends/family i can ask about this as neither are particularly helpful. Friends are almost all single, and the family members i COULD ask all met their partners in school and have fairy tale endings. Not particularly helpful for me. Thanks in advance <3

 

I mean i have this one friend who is OMEGA hot, literally won the genetic lottery. And as far as i know he is Bi or at least Bi curious but ive known him for my whole life and im not sure what my feelings are towards him. I guess a big problem i have is i dont meet many people. Working 5 days a week in a school doesnt leave much time to meet anyone my age. Theyre either students or teachers and neither are the right age group for me since im 21, 22 mid year. And ive tried looking into some Lgbt+ friendly groups near me but ive not got the courage to try that yet since im a bit of shy person

 

Thats a nice story, very spontaneous i like it. Unfortunately i havent seen many Lgbtq+ groups near me, perhaps im not looking in the right places because im sure there has to be some since i live in/close to the biggest city in the state. New friends does sound lovely

I know i said i want a 'relationship' its the word i use but its not exactly what i mean, im not exactly seeking the perfect match, more someone who can supplement me and i them. Its possible what i need is just a very caring platonic relationship, who knows (i certainly dont) I know i would certainly "like" a romantic relationship its not exactly on the tippy top of my list specifically.

If i can find a Lgbtq+ group near me i certainly will try and go, i think it would do me good

YES THIS, honest communication is very attractive IMO and i certainly would strive to keep myself like that as much as i can.

(wow using my name to deliver sage wisdom, thats pretty deep)

You have certainly given me a bit to think on, but more help is always welcome if you have it, ill never turn down good advice

No most certainly not, im also pretty certain he wouldnt find me attractive. And i certainly dont have the confidence to say anything to him. Im not even sure how i feel about him, my feelings are somewhat muddled

 

So just a quick update, i started talking to this guy named Bailey today and it seems to be going quite well, we seem to have a fair bit in common and he hinted he wanted to take me out for coffee. Im feeling both nervous and excited at the thought of it. But talking to him is making me quite happy.

 

Thank you both! <3 im very nervous about it, ive not been on a date for a very very long time so im a bit in shambles just thinking about it. Ive had butterflies all day, we are yet to settle an actual time yet but hopefully it will be this Tuesday arvo. OMgosh ive caught feelings AHHHHH

 

Waiting for a response is killing me AHHHHHHHHHHHHHH

 

AHH he said yes!! yay. Tuesday arvo at a cafe near the beach thats pretty close. So excited and nervous

 

UPDATE TIME

Here is the recap: So he wasn't feeling well today unfortunately and stayed home and at one point had a nap and then ended up being like 30 mins late, i was super worried i was gonna get stood up but i was wrong and I was just so glad he came. We walked for a while making small talk ya know im pretty awkward and he said he is too but i disagree, then we went and got drinks then sat and chatted for like an hour. I laughed, he laughed it was really nice, we sat and watched the sunset over the beach (well kinda the water is east) It would have gone longer I think but mum was gonna pick me up and was getting ansy about waiting when i said I wanted another half hour. So I decided it was probably better to go rather than deal with a pissed off mum all night. He understood, I got a hug and a photo and I think im getting a 2nd date. So I guess it went well. and we are still chatting over messages too which is a good sign i thing. he also said he thinks im adorable

 

He is really sweet, huge nerd, preetty awkward but i love it and thats probably just a first meeting thing. Also he has a vivid imagination, and he is pretty lewd. He also loves a good tease which is fun, he is super flirty too. I think we are gonna go to a convention in a few weeks which should be fun! He's a bit sick atm so im still waiting on the 2nd date but at least i know im gonna get it!

 

He really is, i vey much enjoyed the time we spent together, wish we could do it again sooner. At least we still talk every day for ages, which that plus the promise of a 2nd date is enough for me at the moment.