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Creating tension...

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by Tikimon20, Aug 6, 2021.

  1. Tikimon20

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    This is my 1st post and I guess I've been in denial for many years over my encounters and desires to be with another man. And in the last couple of years all my cravings and fantasies have only been with men. I've just came out to my best friend a few months ago and it has been wonderful. I've been wondering if the taboo and secrecy of being with another man makes the sex so good?
     
  2. meltyblood

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    Perhaps in a way it does. There is a certain cartharsis in partaking in something considered to be "taboo" and still gaining pleasure from it.
     
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    That's an interesting question. I think there's some sort of adrenalin rush to the taboo and secrecy that can influence it, but I would also guess that simply having a level of attraction and desire that you've held for a long time quenched may have just as much to do with it.
     
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    My attempts at quenching my desire seem to increase it!