I had the most productive therapy session today and I can’t help but feel like a large weight has been removed... I’ve been seeing him for several months and had hinted around and mentioned at times I feel like I’m bi but when he would question me further I would shy away from the topic. My therapist is gay and this was one of my major hurdles being able to step out of my comfort zone and talk about my sexuality with a gay man, he is a very good therapist and gave me a safe atmosphere to tear down my barriers today... I freely discussed my ongoing fantasies, past indicators that I may be gay when I was growing up....my failed heterosexual relationships as well as my coming out for the first time (verbally) to the tattoo artist who did my piercing over the weekend... As the session wore on I found myself saying stuff I never thought I would say and it felt so natural... My heart was pounding the more that came out but it was the biggest release I ever experienced and I’m grateful to be able to get to this point...
Congratulations! I had similar feelings coming out to someone , it's such a strange paradox, I was shaking and nervous but like you say it felt so natural. It's important to come out to yourself of course, but now I understand the importance of coming out to people.
Danabutton.....Congratulations!!!! I know the feeling...shear terror and then the greatest relief that you've ever experienced. It took me about 45 minutes of tears and agony trying to say "I am gay" for the first time to another person. Then when I said it the dam just burst and I was crying and laughing at the same time. It's something that no straight person will ever be able to understand. Keeping such a huge secret for such a long time (40+ years for me) and then finally being free of the guilt and shame that the secret held over me. I am so happy for you!!! ***HUGS*** ***HUGS*** ***HUGS*** ***HUGS*** .....David
Like you the first person beside myself I came out to was my therapist. At the time I was involved with the man who became my BF. However at the beginning I justified it as a middle life crisis, then I was bisexual but in reality I knew better. At one session as we were talking about other things I just blurted out that I was gay. It was such a liberating feeling to finally put those five letters together out loud “I’m gay! From that day on I started my transition to an openly gay man. I look on that day as my liberation day. Emancipation from compulsory heterosexuality as I call it.
Congrats! I also came out to my therapist this week. Well mostly. I said "I am more gay than not," lol.
Congratulations! The first person I came out to was also a therapist. It’s been met with so much empathy. Forever grateful!
Congratulations! I used to come out to people I didn’t know a lot before I finally told my close friend I was gay. It was my way of testing the water on how it felt to tell someone you were gay. Every time it was exciting and made it much easier when I finally starting telling people I know.