So not too long although I'm sure it feels like forever. I can totally understand not wanting to be outed, I think when you are in the closet everything feels more risky. If you have LGBT friends there is no reason you couldn't be going as a straight ally but you have to do what you feel most comfortable doing.
Hi!I just joined this site today.I also have a homophobic family and understand your fears.I hope you will find here the support you need!
Yeah, my family is Mormon so there is definitely going to be some controversy when I completely come out. I am a tad bit rebellious to those in the family so next year I plan on going to pride in Seattle. I hope we both can go.
That’s easier said than done but I’m working towards it and I don’t think it’s smart to tell my dad while I’m still relying on him financially. Girl, I hope I can go to pride in the next few years but my dad can’t know any soon.
Yeah dude, one day you'll get to be all bi and proud. For now I think you're right to not tell your dad. Everyone should be able to be open when they're ready and secure in themselves, whether physically or mentally.
That's true. Thanks!!! Also during pride month, I got my nails done pink, purple, and blue so it would be a little empowerment for me. I got compliments on it and most people said "That's so cute, are those your favorite colors?" and I was just like "Thanks and yeah" Those ARE my favorite colors so it's not a lie. One time when I was in the coffee shop for my support group, I was ordering a drink and I could tell the barista was queer because I know us and she said: "I like your nails, very bold." I thanked her and I knew that she got it. It's okay because the straights don't understand.