Hi all, I hope it's not inappropriate to ask but how should I go about finding out what it's like to be with a woman, in a quick and easy way? I'm 39, married with two children but have had bisexual/gay thoughts for years. I love my husband but I also want to experience sex with a woman. There seems to be lots of ways for straight men to meet/have encounters with women. For women, it seems more difficult. In an ideal world, I'd arrange to meet a woman in a lovely place where no-one knows me, have some prosecco and a laugh and find out what it's all about. Has anyone else on here done this? Can you give me any guidance? I just want to see what it's like. I greatly appreciate any advice. Thanks in advance x
Sorry - I've just re-read my post and realised that the tone of it is rather blunt. I want delete it but I don't know how to. I hope no-one us offended by my directness. I'm just very confused about all this. The feelings keep coming back and I don't know what to do. I suppose I'm searching for some form of resolution.
Hi @GaiaStar , Don’t apologize. It’s very common for one’s libido to be cranked up to full blast when the reality of our sexuality comes to the fore of our every waking thought. I’m not sure there’s a lot you can do in your situation without some honest communication with your husband. Nobody will responsibly have some “how to get some on the side” advice here but many will sympathize. Try to take it one day at a time and check out how others here are navigating their relationships. There’s lots of experience and support to be had. Welcome to EC. :}
Where do you live? Are there any swingers clubs around you? Most will post some calendar of recurring events. Pick what suits ya.
Oh, further to my last, if you do go, learn the etiquette and vernacular of the swinging scene. It's well defined, and conformity to same is expected. Have fun!
Thank you so much for your advice. I've got to get my head sorted and decide what to do but it helps greatly to speak to others about it ☺
