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  1. Jaimequestions

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    I have always been straight but recently, I have wanted to give my first blow job. Something about it just looks like fun. Does this mean anything about me?
     
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    Well.....there are a couple schools of thought on this. In my opinion it would mean you are likely bi-curious. But only you really know what it means to you. I can tell you that’s where it started for me at a very young age.
     
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    i really want to too, for about the same reason
     
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    This depends on your age. A lot of guys do a fair amount of experimentation as they learn about their sexuality. This is not a bad thing to be open to what you are feeling. So, it may or may not mean anything about your sexuality. If you have fantasies about other guys; but, don't find women arousing then it might mean you are leaning towards gay. But, I would just accept at this time that you have this fantasy and it is OK to have that desire and not try and read too much into it.

    Are you still attracted to females?
     
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    I'd agree that there can be simple curiosity depending on your age. If you're past your teens, then it may be more than curiosity. So some questions you can think about: if you watch straight porn, do you look more at the guys, or the girls? If you masturbate without porn, do you think about guys, or girls? Have you tried intentionally thinking about guys when you masturbate?

    All of those strategies will help you get a little clearer picture of where your real attractions lie. If you are comfortable speaking about those experiences here, we may be able to offer more meaningful insight.
     
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    So. I read a couple of your other posts and the plot thickens a bit. It seems you are curious about other aspects of gay sex too and not just a passing thought about oral sex. It sounds like you might be, or might have been, involved with some same sex experimentation. This isn't bad. I still don't know how old you are. But, I am starting to sense that you are starting to understand a bit more about your sexuality and that might mean you are, perhaps, at least bi and possibly gay.

    Chip has some really important questions about your fantasies that bear really taking an honest look at to really begin to understand your sexuality.
     
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    Well, I am 30. My real turn on was when I first saw Bailey Jay and Jane Marie. Ever since then I have wanted to try that. In terms of what I like to see, I always get excited when the porn star, [name removed] for example pulls down the guys pants and starts to give a blow job. I find it hot.
     
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    Have you tried the masturbation-without-porn exercises to see what fantasies create the strongest arousal?
     
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    Yes. Sometimes it is with women, but other times it is with thinking about blowjobs. The blowjob ones feel better because it is "naughtier"
     
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    Having thought about it some more, I do have to say that I do not mind the penis. I would like to get comfortable around them. I have wanted to go to a nudist resort, obviously not do anything stupid, go to Spa World, or go to a male strip club. The one in DC always for full nudity. I have even thought about trying it myself on amature night. Since a young age I have loved nudity. Thanks for the advice so far. Much love.
     
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    So if "better" = "more intense", and there's a notable difference in intensity/arousal between thinking about blowjobs with guys vs. thinking about women, then that's a pretty good indicator you're at least on the spectrum and aren't completely straight.

    On the nudist resort: Keep in mind that nudist resorts are generally entirely non-sexual places (at least, the legit ones are; there are certainly bathhouses and such, but they generally don't advertise themselves as "nudist resorts".) So you'll want to be careful... many are family-friendly, which means there are kids and young teens around. These are not appropriate places to go to stare at other men's junk :slight_smile:.

    Now... if you're talking about a bathhouse, or an "all-male" nudist resort... those (definitely the former, and often the latter) are basically places to go to have random hookups, and looking at guys' junk is probably more acceptable.

    So just be clear on what you're after. You'll pretty quickly get thrown out of a family nudist place if you're staring at the people there.
     
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    I'm bisexual. I used to fantasize about m2m sex whenever I fantasized. But, I was getting sex with my wife. Now, that I get sex with men too, I don't fantasize much at all.

    Do you have a girlfriend? Do you have experience with sex with either men or women or both? At thirty, it seems a bit beyond the exploration phase for most of us. But, I'm almost 60 and I am just starting to explore m2m. So, some of us miss out when we are younger.

    Your original question about what wanting to do oral sex on a man meant about you...At your age, it, likely means you are at least bi and maybe gay.
     
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    I know nudist places have a lot of rules, but I think I should get comfortable being naked around everyone. I would definatly be respectful there. I never realized that for me one of the most exciting part of porn for me is the beginning of a blow job. Thanks Chip. You have really opened my eyes
     
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    Thanks NickW. I am actually married. My wife is amazing and has even said if I want to try it with a guy to go for it. She doesn't mind uses I am only after something she cannot give me. Sounds great but i feel like there is a trap. I am pretty sire i am Bi. I like seeing any type of adult nudity.
     
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    Well. This is entirely different. For some reason, I thought you were just a kid looking for some experiences.

    I'm curious about why you feel your wife's permission is a "trap". What do you think she is really saying?

    I'm married for 34 years. My wife is aware and is OK with my sexuality and my need for male intimacy. In fact, she is teaching a gay lover of mine to ski this weekend. But, this is exceptional and has taken a lot of open communication. If I felt my wife was testing me, as you apparently do, it would involve a very serious conversation about this.
     
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    I have seen so many horror movies, that I always think there is a trap. This would be a healthy discussion. Thanks NickW. I will post my progress.
     
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    Sounds like there is some level of bisexuality going on with you, depending on whether or not you still find yourself attracted to females.

    I'm attracted to women, mostly look at women, date women, etc. etc. Outwardly, I am very much a "straight guy" in my appearance, mannerisms, etc. But, sometimes I like to experiment sexually and yea, giving blowjobs is hot, especially if the fella in question is... um... let's say on the large side :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes: It's not something I'm interested in all the time, but yea, sometimes it's hot as fuck.

    So if you're anything like me, you're probably bisexual.

    Do you often find yourself looking at guys/thinking about them?
     
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    I think it means you're sexual ... and maybe more than most.

    Worry about putting labels on it later! If it feels right to you and it's within acceptable boundaries, enjoy yourself and be safe.
     
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    In the grand scheme of things, I don't know if it matters what you call yourself.

    I have wondered about giving blow jobs too. I am not attracted to men and have no romantic interest in them - only curious about the "naughty bits".

    When masturbating, I will think of women I've been with (and things we've done), but I will also fantasize about giving a blow job. On occasion, I will also fantasize about being a bottom.

    Like you, I think the male (or trans girl) images are hot because they are things I haven't done and are "naughty".

    I am not married, but I think I get what you mean when you wonder if your wife giving you permission to experiment is a trap. My last girlfriend once asked if I was interested in boinking her friend - who was quite attractive. She saw the stunned look on my face and then said she was just testing me to see how I would react...
     
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    This is NOT a good relationship vibe. Having your girlfriend want to control your sexuality and who you are attracted to is a bad sign.
     
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