This is like the most uncomfortable thing ever to ask about, but how the fuck does any pre-everything trans guy masturbate without having to face all the intense bottom dysphoria first. Like i'll say it now i'm not getting anything done down there unless they can give me a fully functioning penis, i'm just scared it'd get messed up and i'd have been better off leaving it as is, so i'm leaving it as is. I mean i might not like it, but it works. I would like a hysterectomy someday tho. Anyways...like, i know there's sex toys marketted at trans guys but that won't really work when i'm not on HRT. Like i can't even physically touch myself let alone do insertion. I see that on porn websites, the trans ones will insert and i'm like nope hell no not me. But i'm still a 20-something year old guy. And this is mostly venting tbh i'm just so frustrated. Like unless they make a very quiet very mild vibrator in it for you with a strap on as a combo there's like nothing....yeah i say like when i'm nervous, can you tell? I'm not posting this on anon haha. Its just, its late and it'd be nice but the inability to just do it normally or completely enjoy it from the start is beyond frustrating. Lots of porn and imagination helps, obviously. Like i have the worst bottom dysphoria. I was so happy when a trans ftm youtuber made a video talking about hrt negatives and mentioned something about boners and i was like wait that's a thing i was excited and happy.
I'm AMAB. But I have a good friend who is ftm and what he has to go through just to feel like he could satisfy that itch is pretty stressful for him. He usually has to grind on something or have just grit his teeth and do it. He says some days are worse than others but he just started T and his libido is through the roof. So maybe try the grinding thing, clothed even. I have similar dysphoria with my own parts, I do try to convince myself that my genitals don't define my gender. I hope that you can get past this, it can be extremely distressing.
Sorry if this is insensitive, but have you used your clitoris? Clitoris is your own small penis. It might be small, but it feels the same. And about strap-ons, plenty of lesbians use strap-ons, so you don’t need HRT for it. Even some straight couples use strap-ons.
don't worry your not being insensitive at all. And yeah i do. I just can't stand physically touching it. i like the idea of a strap on but cause its not physically yours i struggle to comprehend how you'd still get off using one. like unless its got a built in vibrator. which would be awkward unless its very quiet. i bought a regular vibrator only to realize they're somewhat loud. and i live at home.
