Really, really lonely after coming out

oh yeah!!!!! big time! i remember stepping into the gay community after coming out of the closet and it was pretty damn scary, but it does get better. Sometimes people have it a bit more rough than others. I was definitely not used to being hit on, and looked at with such lustful eyes and sometimes sneered at but that's all good because everything you're feeling is perfectly normal. and it's different for other places, depending on the area you live in, though you are not alone. everyone has gone through the same struggle, just give it time.
Finding a relationship can be hard, but I wouldn't rush into it so fast because there's so much to enjoy about everything. live your life a little. find people with the same common interest and hobbies that are lgbt friendly or lgbt orientated, that can definitely open up a convo or two for you. It's hard on your own but it's definitely helpful to try and find something that can be productive and positive for you

 

Maybe look for some groups to do things you like to do. That will at least help you to make friends. I always remind myself that about 10% of humans are gay, half male, half female. So 5% are gay male, of those I might be attracted to 10-20%. I figure when it comes down to it, I’m looking for one person. Friends are much easier to find than BFs.

 

@Sleeping Owl

I agree with both above. Try meetup to find a group of people with a similar interest not necessarily gay. You'll be occupying your time doing something you enjoy and meeting new people. Finding a gay relationship is very difficult for all genders. There seems to be an influx of what I call the 'teen popularity' syndrome with people after coming out where they just see how many people they can bang. It's like all reason has left the building.

Just because I came out as a lesbian doesn't mean I changed what I value or want in life. So where are all those who came out and still want to build a life, have a relationship with someone?