Dating advice

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  1. Broodyvamp

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    So the other week I met a girl on ######. I asked her out on a date and it went incredibly well, at least from my perspective. We had a great conversation and it ended up being a 2 hour coffee. I paid and at the end of the date I asked for her phone number and she gave it to me. I texted her thanking her for meeting me and saying we should do it again sometime, which she said yes to. This was last week.

    I texted her earlier in the week to try to find a time to go out again but currently her grandmother is in the hospital so she said things are a bit crazy right now and she said she would let me know a time when things calm down a bit.

    The thing is that I am super into this girl, like she is exactly my type and I really want to go out again. I am wondering if it would be acceptable for me to text her again before she comes back at me with a time. It has been almost a week since her last text. I don't want to come across as insensitive but I also don't want to cut off communication. Again I really like her and I can see this going somewhere.

    Any advice would be appreciated!!

    Thanks EC
     
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    The best thing to do is wait until she approaches you again with a date and time to go out again, since she's in such a rough spot at the moment. For right now you don't have to "cut off communication", but I advise not badgering her for a date since she's probably a little sensitive, but just giving her your love and support and letting her know you're a friend who will always be there in her corner when things get rough.
     
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    I agree I think maybe don't mention another date but just send her a message saying you hope her grandmother is on the mend or that you hope things are not too rough for her right now.
     
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    Yeah that was what I was leaning toward. I just have a lot of negative experience with dating people I have met online. Lots of ghosting like messaging well and saying the date went well then just never talking to me again. So I guess you could say that my guard is up on this one.

    Thank you for the advice!
     
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    Yeah that's understandable but you have to try and not tar everyone with that brush just so you don't end up missing a good one. Easier said than done though I know.
     
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    Update:

    So today was the day that I planned to message her again. Instead I ran into her on the train heading to the university, and she asked me if I wanted to go for coffee. SHE ASKED ME!!!! I was worried for no reason what so ever lol
     
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    Yay. When's the coffee?
     
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