At what age did you accept your sexuality?

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  1. justinf

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    Like... 22? 23? There were times where I thought I'd accepted it, but in hindsight I really hadn't. I've definitely accepted it now, even if I still think it's confusing as hell.
     
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    I started questioning around 12 but I started labeling myself as bi right after I turned 13.
     
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    I was about 13-14 when I truly accepted my sexuality.
     
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    I think I was 14 when I was in class, looked at my math teacher and though "damn he's hot". xD

    And when I was back home I was like "ahem, okay, what am I gonna do now". I accepted myself easily but I didn't really know how to handle all these homophobics FrenchSwearingWordxD.
     
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    I think 28/29
     
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    I never had that sort of interest towards girls in high school. All the guys would talk about their girls, show me their pictures. I'd just say "Yeah, she's beautiful.", but I wouldn't really appreciate it any farther than that. There were girls that met what the societal standard for "pretty" was, and I would recognize only that. I never felt anything for any of the guys, either, so I just assumed I was asexual all through those years. But I don't want to be that. I want to have a sexual, sensual relationship with somebody. After I thought about the possibility of being with a guy, I started having fantasies. I'm still trying to figure it all out though.

    I was 19 when I began to question myself, if that counts for anything.
     
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    Kind of knew all along, but I came to terms with the fact I liked girls at 18 (under the assumption I was bi) and accepted myself as gay at 20.
     
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    I recognized at 10 or 11 that boys were more exciting to me than girls. I didn't really understand the implications of that till freshman year. It took along time after that to "accept" it. I know that there are many in "the community" who are happy to be "other than traditional", but I have always wished that I was born to be traditionally sexual.
     
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    I think I accepted it before I realized it, in a way? I had crushes on girls since age 10, but I never really thought much of it. Then pretty much right after my 14th birthday, I thought "Oh shoot, I'm gay. Oh well, that explains it, I guess."
     
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    16, but I didn't really accept my gender until 18. Like I've always known I wasn't a girl, but I was raised Christian and was scared.
     
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    Shocking for most here I guess 31...yah child of 70s here ...teenager in a different era...first gup I kissed was when I was 31..ack!
     
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    I've known since I was about 13/14 but I didn't really accept it until I was 16
     
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    Just recently. Secretly, I had always been comfortable with being bisexual, but only accepted it fully in recent months. That means I have accepted the fact that I can have a lesbian marriage if I wanted.
     
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    I would say the oldest was 13 and the youngest i realized it was 11
     
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    I first accepted that I was bisexual when I was 18, but then I went through a ton of other identities. I finally realized that I was bisexual again shortly after I transitioned. So, that would have been when I was 20.
     
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    still haven't because of religion...
     
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    As soon as I figured it out, I accepted it. But this took some time cause at first I thought I'm bisexual (12/13) now I know I'm panromantic asexual (16/17/18)