Well, I kinda understand Small Talk like a ... Conversation starter. Get all the facts and then you can get into the real thing: How are you? What are you doing? Do you like it? You have anything you like a lot (like a hobby etc.) I would say, the last thing is already a little bit more than small talk, but yeah. I hate it, but I came to accept it xD I'm a weird introvert :lol:
Is there a guide for small talk? I think that would be quite informative, beyond things like "Hi, how are you?" which most if the time isn't treated as a real question but as a rhetorical greeting.
Forbes has a nice little list for that: http://www.forbes.com/forbes/welcome/?toURL=http://www.forbes.com/sites/christinapark/2015/03/30/an-introverts-guide-to-small-talk-eight-painless-tips/&refURL=https://www.google.ch/&referrer=https://www.google.ch/
:rolle: :roflmao: I understand the small talk dislikes, but its also a way to kind of use your radar to see if someone is a relaxed person to talk to , if that is what someone desires. We chat here on the forum, but small talk is kind of the way to cautiously start a thread in the forum of the world :eusa_danc ? No ?
Now you done did it, you shipwrecked this whole topic hahaha are u on 9gag or something, that is soooo 9gag to say...Ill let myself out But yeah icebreakers is small talk to I guess... I remember talking to an African lady on the airport, I used to smoke then and she was out of smokes (tricky sometimes to get a few right before flying) so I gave her a few and we had the nicest talk and her friend from the UK he was nice to. She ended up giving me a handmade shirt from the Fulani tribe as she called it. It was sweet, I did mention it at the gate of the airport, I mean I am not naive They said oh its nice ! Keep it Didnt feel there was anything going on with it , but just to be sure. That was a sweet heart warming small talk. I bet if we talked more it would grow to big talk hahaha And really believe me, I hated small talk and cringed with the idea until I was around 24 I started to change a little. Now I can like it. I dont fake it though. And that is annoying that some people just dont mean their friendliness....
Ahhh, you let yourself drown... Wait what :lol::eusa_clap Oh yeah, people who just pretend to be interested in you are the worst. I really don't like them...I can sense that within seconds and then I'm having some major problems with small talk. You know how you are supposed to rember names and all this: I sometimes can't remember the names of some of my friends... (which grew to an inside joke I don't really like xD) how am I supposed to remember a name of a stranger? That's the question I can't answer....
Yeah I usually am able to remember the names but spontaneously forget them when I want to address them. I usually call them by hair color or something less nice
Like what? "Hey Blondie!" ?? I don't think I'd be able to do that xD I'm more the type that's like: Can't remember their names? Wait until someone else calls them and then I've got it
I had this problem tutoring a really small group of teenager boys, I just walk up to them and say HEY!! It never missed ! Always works ! I think everyone is called Hey somehow deep inside. I have that problem all the time remembering the names unless I really need to say the name to the person. But in a fancy situation with like Bill Gates, I could not use the hey technique I would say Mr.Hey
I just imagined a group of teen casually talking then you walk over and just scream at them. Teens: "blah blah blah" You: "HEY!!!" Sorry, I've got a vivid imagination
Yeah, I also use "Hey" most of the time, or I would just creep up to them, stare at them and then ask my question :lol: Nah, but yeah, I think right now this is my biggest problem with small talk xD
Hahah Lucifer Light, I am the same with a vivid imagination thats why I blabber so much here and I love to write stories. It is exactly like that situation problem is, they seem relatives they will all look at me and I will have to address them all at the same time. *awkwarrrrrrd* And Jolly I used to wait for another one to say the name to, and still embarrassed so I announced this a couple of times. People I suck with names it will take me hundred years to figure it out. But then the third time I need to ask for a name..I just went to the hey tactic In this situation the name will never come up by another. They are very quiet kids