I think that's a good text! I should definitely send it tomorrow. This way it's a LOT harder to chicken out.... Now to tell them the full extent of my sexuality and come out as pan, or just ease them into it and tell them I'm bi for now....
Hmmm.... I think playing that one by ear might be the best approach. I would say try writing out several ways of describing it to them and then just let it come out the way it feels right when you start talking.
I was thinking of going with "Gender and attraction don't go hand in hand for me. In fact they have nothing to do with each other. I like humans." Or something like that, and then just let them fill in the blanks.
I might try... Mom Dad, love you both. You have taught me many things.. Honesty, integrity. Compassion. Above all, you taught me to be true to myself. So, I feel I must share this part of me that helps me be that person. I am a bisexual. I find that I can love any human without the constraint of their sex. This is who I am and I really would like to share with you what it means to me. Share who I am.
That's good! A little "speechy" though, I wanted to do it as short and sweet as possible....almost like ripping off a band-aide. Though I suppose I could shorten it: "Mom, Dad, I love you both. You always taught me to be myself, and so I am. I'm bisexual. I like people, not just a specific sex."
Yeah. Wrote that to come out to my family over the Fourth of July. Now, I am thinking of just stripping to a rainbow speedo and saying "any questions?" I vacillate from one to the other!
I was talking in another thread about just going on the date, and the when they ask how it went, just be like "It was great! He's cute, sweet, and funny! Now if only I could get Jennifer Lawrence in bed with us for a threesome!" That may NOT be the best way to do things though....maybe I'll just try the rainbow speedo thing.:lol:
I would guess my 85 year old parents are not going to ask any questions at all when their middle age son strips to a rainbow speedo. So, maybe your other one would work for me too. Except it might get confusing if I use my wife plus Jennifer Law....wait a minute...
I just came out to my family (a.k.a grandparents). My grandma is 78 and grandpa is 84. You guys will be just fine!! (I didn't do the rainbow thingy because they wouldn't get it:badgrin
Oh geez....I haven't even thought about my grandparents yet....one step at a time. Good for you though!
Having reflected on just coming out last month to my family, It's a wild ride. It was as if there was an urge in me that was building up to some moment, percolating more like it, and it gets to the point of not being able to contain it anymore. As it was stated from other people on this forum (who i dearly love, thank you!) there really is no right time to do it, but when it happens, it just happens. It's a weird feeling, but it's a good feeling!
Grandparents can surprise you sometimes. My grandma has passed, but an interesting story - she was very religious, and so whenever anyone in the family was expecting she automatically would crochet a lovely christening outfit. My brother, for many reasons was very set on the decision that he was not going to christen his son. Grandma had already made the outfit by then, so in a very awkward but loving way, she brought it over and handed it to him saying, I made this outfit for M, he can just wear it whenever he likes. It was her way of saying, I understand you have your own path. Of course, not all stories go that way. But you just have to take one thing at s time.
Eh, I'm really not feeling it today, but I'm going to try at dinner....I think. Maybe I'll just start with telling them I'm not coming home after work tomorrow and be honest when they ask why?....
No. I didn't even mention anything about the date, or not coming home after work....I really just completely froze. Maybe I should cancel? Am I not in a place to be dating, ESPECIALLY another guy? I mean if I can't come out, what does that say? Maybe I'll just wait and see if it works out....then I'll have something to tell.
You know I'm feeling your feels on this bb!! <3 I put in my post that you commented on what my plans are. I like them! RANDOM MESSAGE PEOPLE WITH ME.
Will do!!!! (my supervisor/buddy at work is about to get a very weird message:lol I'm about to head out soon for my date! Sqeeee.
I did have fun! We went for a walk in the park, then back to his place for pizza and to watch Ghostbusters. Cuddling ensued. I got awkward and nervous(sign I like him, that's how I act when around someone I like). He messaged me after I left, about how he feels bad I got like that, that maybe he pushed too far or I'm not into him. I responded telling him that he should take that as a good sign, because that's how I am. It'll go away as I get more comfortable with him. I didn't tell him this, but I actually wanted to go FURTHER than we did.....I wish I had gotten lucky.
