A question to other 'tomboys' in re. to dysphoria-like feelings

That's a really interesting question. I'll get back to you on that!

 

I have felt this way all my life.

Ironically, a traumatic period in my life made me aware that there is a more feminine aspect within me (that likes ruffles and lace, for example). I've tried exploring this a bit recently but it makes me very anxious. So I'm still sticking with an androgynous presentation.

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Although I did indulge in a ruffley turquoise accent pillow for my couch. I feel much more comfortable adding little feminine touches to my home than I do changing my presentation.

 

I feel much the same way. Have tried to "correct" those feelings by forcing myself to look feminine. It hasn't worked, only made me extremely insecure, uncomfortable and anxious. After more than a decade of repressing myself I've started dressing/presenting myself in a way that makes me feel more comfortable.

I think it can be a form of body dysmorphia which is different than gender dysphoria. I was completely obsessed as a youngster with my body looking wrong, had plastic surgery to correct it but it just made it worse so now i have to have that fixed too.

Stop Confusing Gender Dysphoria With Body Dysmorphia Already

 

This is the first time I have heard of the term "body dysmorphia". I read some of the article, but I don't feel that is my issue.

 

I dont think that its alwaysthe case for everyone ho doesnt feel good intheir assigned genders stereotype. I know for me personally iprobably never should have been allowed to get plastic surgery, is i had some extreme obsession/disgust with my body because it was wrong. I dont think i have itanynorr as ive worked thru a lot but now i hate my plastic surgery and have to pay twice as much to have it removed.

I think feeling better dressing a certain way over another is just a matter of certain taste also, i love feeling more masculine but i dont hate my vagina or small figure(anymore)

 

Yeah, I can relate. I hate wearing dresses, I just feel really self concious about it and uncomfortable in them. I'm not a great fan of skirts either. I like wearing denim shorts though. I tend to feel the most comfortable in loose tops and shorts or flowy trousers/high waisted ones. I don't like wearing heels either. The highest heeled shoe I own is my sandals that have a slight wedge to them. I did wonder if I was a guy at one point, but then I realised that I identify more as a fabulous female, and an awesome one to. I'm also more comfortable with my body these days, so that's a plus. I still have the same style going on though, and I'd say I'm fairly androgynous but definitely identifiably female. And rocking it. :icon_wink

 

Waternation i have explained my feelings towards wearing/looking feminine ascross dressing as well. When i have long hair i feel like im not even looking atmyself in thr mirror, its very strange.

I used to avoid mirrors, or my reflection, pictures, etc. Since shaving most ofmy hair (usually keep short hair, jist never this short) and becoming more muscular i love my reflection and am excited to see changes.i appreciate your kindness, im okay now and realizing my genderqueerness has not had nearly the devastating effects as i thought it would.

Im very identifiable as female, didnt used to be but puberty does things as does surgery ithink even when igo back to being flat chested i will still just look like a girl with no tits, or a tomboy. Or "dyke", which is what i used to get called a lot.

Which is offensive to me, is dyke an overall offensive term?

 

I can definitely relate. I don't have time to type a long response because I have a crazy amount of homework. If this topic is still active by Saturday evening, I will elaborate.

 

I've felt the same for almost my entire life. I hate wearing dresses or feminine clothing, I just like plain unisex, andro clothing/style, that's the most comfortable for me. I do like having long hair though.