do you fit in the the queer people's?

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  1. MotelGuy

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    I'm very straight acting...But, I have campy Gay moments, but only around women...
     
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    I'm in a similar situation. People shit on my opinions and ideology, and then other people shit on my sexuality to rub salt in the wound. Some even do both, saying that I can't be X and have Y political stance without being "self-hating" or "a traitor". (I only reveal my gender if I have to, but I bet I'd get shit from every side.)

    ...In the queer peoples' what? If it weren't for my current state of affairs, I'd be a relatively gender-conforming guy. The stereotypes don't fit me well at all. I'd say no, mainly because "queer people" are not a monolith; sexuality/gender have little to do with personality, interests, talents, and other important things.
     
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    I have a few gay friends that I fit in with we all seam to like football 'don't agree that gay people don't like sport ' classic stereotype. were just normal guys who are turned on by other guys .
     
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    Do I fit in..? I don't know, you guys tell me. :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes:

    But I can't relate to all, but why would I? I don't expect to relate to all. We share just a few things, that's all. =)
     
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    Nope, just don't feel a sense of belonging to the gay community here. Yes I have gay friends but we're all mostly non-scene and most of my friends are straight.
     
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    I don't really fit in with people who identify as "queer" or use that word.
     
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    I'm not sure, but I worry I won't because I'm just not into the stuff people seem to suggest to get into gay culture, like clubbing or bars. I'm gay but I'm a nerd through and through and a bonafide introvert. I just want to find another nerd girl to cuddle on the couch and watch cartoons with :lol: .
     
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    I have no idea but I don't really mind either if I do.
     
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    fit in with the queer people's...what?

    ...I don't think I fit in anything at all
     
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    Hmmm. Putting labels on people? I thought that was something we are trying to fight off.........the stereotypes and labels.


    If you are asking if I "fit in", then no. I don't fit in anywhere, never have.
    Nobody can take the reality that is me.
     
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    If the question is whether or not you fit the stereotypes--well, no, I don't suppose I do. But I've always found the queer community to be welcoming and comfortable so in that respect, yes I suppose I would say I "fit in."
     
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    You ain't alone... bi/pansexual, Lutheran (ELCA), libertarian.

    Do I fit in? I can get along with most anyone, and blend in most anyplace I go. I've been to a couple of gay bars, and a drag show, and gotten positive and negative looks and winks. I suppose if I were looking, I could probably pick someone up there (I'm not doing bad on the hookup apps.) I can go to a non-gay bar, and just blend in. Well, unless I'm with my gay friends.

    When I'm shopping alone, I don't get any notice what-so-ever. My assumption is I look and act pretty straight. I'm not going to talk differently, act differently, or be different just cause I'm out about being bi. I'm still me, I barely fit in with anyone to begin with.