No I don't. Because in my sexual fantasies, I see myself pleasuring and being pleasured by two people at once. I also see myself as having enough energies to constructively give two partners, who I hope would also love each other very much too. And while I may not be able to realize my dreams, I sure don't want to shame anyone else for dreaming. I have both straight and queer friends who are poly, and I do not for a moment doubt their commitment and loving energies.
I'm not fussed, to be honest. I don't feel an inclination towards either, so I'd go with what my partner wanted.
Nah, not at this point of my life. I'm having too much fun being able to make out with various people.
Hmm at this age I am not even wanting a relationship at all however I will answer anyway. When I am in love every other beings turn into genderless creatures. I only feel desire and romantic affection for the one I love... In generally speaking people want to feel special and want to belong. Monogamy provides this. Being able to love more than one person in the same time not something everyone can do. Especially nothing I can do. As one of them clearly will turn the object of affection I mentioned above and other would be keep solely as a safety net. Tho' those are hypothetically speaking as I would never bring myself down to do that to someone. For me everything in love... in life should be fair and even.
I used to think my idea of romance was strictly monogomous but lately I've actually been thinking it'd be pretty cool to get a 3 way relationship going. Thing is I doubt I'll ever find 1 partner I'm truely compatible with let alone 2 or 3 so realistically I dont see much polygamy in my future. I'd be down for an open relationship with a consenting partner though.
Yes, I do. I don't believe you can love more than one person romantically at the same time, at least not equally. I don't want to be someone's second best and I don't want to share my partner with anyone. And anyway, being with more than one person is too much hassle and would be exhausting for me.
That isn't fair. Just because you don't feel inclined to love many at the same time doesn't mean that others can't. No one is saying you ought to be polyamorous, but it's equally unfair to say everyone must be monogamous.
Where did I say everyone has to be monogamous? And sorry I don't believe that you can love multiple people equally. You are free to disagree with that, but that's how I see it.
I would be monogamous, but I am still not sure if I would require it of someone else. I wouldnt be concerned about the sex (provided its safe practice) but the emotional part. Id have to be pretty secure emotionally with that person to feel ok about them being with others. Its definitely a case-by-case basis thing. Actually, it brings up a slew of issues that I dont have time to write about. Just commenting to say that while I would require it of/for myself (no interest whatsoever in being with two people at once), I woudnt necessarily require it of someone else.
You said, and I quote, Contained within that is an implied disapproval of polyamorous relationships. There are plenty of people who can and do love people equally at the same time. I'd probably be one of them. So I'd thank you to speak for yourself on matters of love, and not make sweeping statements that invalidate people's relationships. Not far away, on another forum, I'm sure there will be some heterosexual bigots talking about how gay people's love is inferior to their own.
Considering how hot a commodity I am, I don't think I'd have much choice. LOL. To keep it simple and honest, I'm capable of monogamy. But I'm not opposed to an additional member, because I think it is possible, to love many people. However, this would be something I'd discuss with Partner #1 first. After all, they were first... unless I meet twins and then, well, that becomes one of those this-doesn't-happen, I-must-be-dreaming moments. Also, I only have so many hands! I wouldn't want to neglect anybody, and I think that, would be the biggest problem. Somebody is bound to get feelings of neglect.
I know I am strange but this post somehow made me want to make a movie called "Kaiser the Pirate Queen and her ship of lovers".
... the Plunder Wonder Down Under". You have no idea if it's a porno, a magic act, or a pirate movie set in Australia. But that's the beauty of it!
I'd say yes, and have said yes since well before joining EC. Although...I wonder... How much of saying yes to monogamy is programming by society, saying this is what you do? Just like society has decreed man+woman? Also an issue that is definitely an issue for me: limit the chances of catching a STD. I was teenager during the 80s AIDS crisis, and that era left a real impression on me. Yes, we have condoms, we have HIV treatment, but a part of me remains uncomfortable with the idea of having sex with many different people at the same time. Then, of course, there is the fact that I haven't even had one relationship, and, in my pessimistic moments, think probably never will have a relationship.
Yes, I would want to be in a monogamous relationship because I can't imagine myself being the third wheel. It does not feel right for me... Having said that, I understand that there are advantages to being in open relationships, so I support those who are in one or want to be in one.
What about the problem of fight with one of your partners? If one of you breaks up with another, the whole interconnected relationship would be broken.
If I were to be in a relationship, I'd have to say it would most likely be monogamous, if mainly because of my feelings towards anything sexual. It's enough that I don't feel like I could satisfy anyone in regards to sexual matters and, since everyone seems to find that so important, I'd always be left feeling like they may as well just leave me out of the relationship entirely because I'd be of relatively little use.
For me, I'd want a monogamous relationship because I value that partnership between one person and myself. When I fall for someone I fall hard and I don't think I could maintain that level of emotional involvement for more than one person, it's hard enough with just the one haha. I would also want to give a partner as much of that as I could, and I'd hope they felt the same way. To me it's a different kind of bond and level of intimacy that can be maintained between myself and one other person. I realize for others it may be different, and that's fine, but that is how it works for me.
