I've been questioning my sexuality for a while now. One question that keeps coming back to me is "am I gay or am I afraid of women?", "am I curious about guys because it seems easier?". I'm just wondering if anyone else (gay, bi, lesbian, trans etc.) feels/has felt this way? How did you deal with it?
I have never been afraid of women, but at one point I was questioning my orientation. I took lots and lots of self reflection. ..not sure if that helped. : 3
I could be wrong but to determine one's sexual orientation I'd rather ask first what I like than what I'm afraid of. I'm lesbian because I like women not because I'm afraid of men.
IIRC that's what I felt like in my teenage years before I was comfortable with admitting that I'm gay to myself. I then took a moment of self-reflection and it ended up being like I am not afraid of women, I could go through the motions with them but then I found myself at a loss of envisioning it. By that I mean, even if I did find a girl that I was comfortable with, I could probably sustain a relationship with them; however, there would be something missing. Does this make any sense?
I don't feel afraid by the opposite sex, they simply don't stimulate interest for me. I'd say, if you're gay, you get excited about being with same-sex and it feels like you don't have to work or go against your will. Women can be quite scary though, I admit it, but, hey, if you don't find them interesting (physically/mentally) and don't want to actually spent time with them, ...Well, probably a little gay ?
I thought this way too at some points throughout my life. That the reason why I was having such bad luck with men was because I was actually afraid of them. Afraid to get romantically and physically close to them... But now after reflection, and throwing myself into the lesbian scene, I realised that I wasn't afraid of them at all. It was just that I never thought of myself as a potential lesbian until now. After realising this, I feel happier - like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders.