I may seem backwards, but everyone I know, I've come out to as gay and all of my friends think I'm the most on fire queer out there. The thing is, I don't know if I really am gay. I think I am because I'm sexually attracted to guys, but I have no guy friends. I don't really feel an emotional attraction to guys either. I feel I can connect and communicate better with girls but I'm not sure if that is just because of my being shunned by other guys because of being femininity and sexuality. Please help me sort these things out so I can be sure of what I am.
Ok. You're sexually attracted to guys. Are you to girls? Girls being attracted to you and your friendship circle being mostly female I think means less than you think, - in my experience women do find flamers/metrosexuals a good company, even when they REALLY prefer hairy-chested ex-army NCO types. (Some are genuinely into this look/behaviour, though.) Boys, not so much. So, naturally you'd have more and more female friends as time passes.
Definitely not attracted to girls. I just wonder what I'm to do because I want companionship when I'm older, I just don't know what gender I should live with/marry.
You are the only one who knows who you are. Everyone has their own unique personality which is what makes the world so special. If you are attracted to guys physically you are probably at least bisexual. A lot of people, myself included, fall in love with a person, not a sex. Some people connect with certain genders on different levels. You may feel more comfortable around girls but find no sexual attraction. That's perfectly normal. You might feel awkward around guys but find them sexually attractive. That's also perfectly normal. I myself am much more comfortable around girls but have no sexual desire towards them. I freeze up around other guys but find them sexually attractive. I have pretty much no guy friends that aren't gay because I don't feel comfortable around them. I do not act feminine but that's my personality. If you are feminine that might add to your discomfort around other guys but there is nothing wrong with who you are. There is nothing wrong with not declaring a sexual orientation. You should just try and find a person, male or female, who you are emotionally and physically attracted to. Find what qualities in them you are attracted to and that may help you decide your sexuality. Sorry if this isn't helpful...
No, there aren't many gay people at my school/won't come out here, and most of them here are only interested in sex or don't like me back.
OK im a junior. it is tough. I'm call myself bi but i could just as easily be gay. i've only had girlfriends because he have zero gay guys. i know its along way off but college is a great place to find like minded people of both genders who want more than just sex. there is alot of pressure to have a definition of yourself sexually now in hs but there is no need. let it play out, even to college if you have too. there really is no rush on the situation.
NP it's really normal to be confused! i still am you have all the time in the world to figure out who you are, not just sexually but as a person. enjoy life and have fun!
Particularly in high school, it's not at all uncommon for gay guys to be a lot more attracted, socially, to girls. In fact, quite a few gay guys I know had nothing but female friends in their high school years, and it wasn't until they graduated and moved on to college or other more adult environments where they started to have more male friends. That doesn't mean they didn't have the occasional boyfriend or male hookup in high school, only that the *friends* they tended to attract were female. And it doesn't make them any less gay... it just means that they (like most gay guys) would probably prefer being around girls than around straight guys at that age
