First steps

Discussion in 'Coming Out Stories' started by Bowie, Jul 21, 2011.

  1. Bowie

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    I've just come out to my first person today.

    He is a gay man about my age whom I met only once (he lives very far from me), but who became a friend over the internet. That was really, really hard for me to do. I thought I wouldn't be able to press the "send" button, but I did. I was literally shaking. He said he knew it already was incredibly friendly and supportive about it. Actually, he had kind of asked me if I was gay a while before, but I denied it. Now I feel only relieved.

    I know it's a small step, but I'm extremely happy I did it. It feels great to talk to someone (non-anonymously) about being gay. I can't wait until I'm ready to tell other people.

    Can I have a dancing banana emoticon now? :icon_bigg
     
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    Happy to oblige! (And grats!)

    (!)(!)(!)
     
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    Nice one :thumbsup:

    Any chance we can look at the email? Or do you wish for it to remain private?
     
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    I did it via instant messaging, actually, and it was pretty blunt. I just said that I'd like to talk to him and asked if he'd keep anything I said a secret. He said yes and I just said "I'm gay". He said "I know", and we talked for a while. He was actually happy that I'm gay. He says he finds it much easier to be friends with gay people than with heterosexuals.
     
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    Congrats.
     
  6. TheEdend

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    A step is a step! Congrats on coming out to your first person! Feel great doesn't it? :slight_smile:
     
  7. Bowie

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    Yes, it really does :slight_smile:
     
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    You can have a lot of dancing bananas!!!!
    (!) (!) (!) (!) (!) (!) (!) (!) (!)

    Because what you did is amazing!
     
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    Hahahaha, thank you.
     
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    Congrats :slight_smile: (!) (!) (!) (!) (!) (!) (!) (!) (!)
     
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    Well done! :thumbsup:
    (!)(!)(!)