You've hit the nail on the head there once again I don't think it has ever been "just physical" for me. Most of the women I've been with, well was a physical element obviously, and they weren't conventional monogamous relationships, but they were never just physical. There was always something there beforehand and it was never transactional. I think I miss the emotional intensity of it most of all. Women are just next level in that regard. No offense!
lol, no offense taken. It makes total sense to me because that is the way you are wired. i speculate that those of us who are gay or bi all have some components typically attributed to the opposite gender. For instance, i am a guy, perceive myself as a guy, have no need or desire to be a woman, yet i don't perceive myself as having a 'cock,' but i have a 'clit' and a 'pussy.' Sorry, there is no offense meant to anyone by me using those terms, but i have to borrow from hetero terms because we don't always have terms of our own describe who and how we are. The terms are by no means ideal, but with a Guy Who wants/needs that in me, it makes perfect sense and resonates with Him. i get it, when i was married to a woman, we had tons of sex, but what i missed was "...the emotional intensity most of all. [Men] are just next level in that regard."
Touché. I definitely have some more typically male traits. I'm competitive and pretty goal-oriented which is rarer in women (partly why you don't see so many female CEOs of massive companies). I think my friends would say I am more assertive and less empathetic than most women. I'm pretty numbers-oriented, data-driven and don't mind being the only person in a room who doesn't agree with the consensus. When people come to me with problems, I'm more likely to give them a solution than a hug - I get that from my dad. I'm definitely more like him than my mum. I have done a few of those "big 5" personality tests, back when I was studying psychology and also since graduation and my scores were more like an average man in most things. I am high openness, high conscientiousness, mid-to-high extraversion (which tends to be lower than average in people with higher than average conscientiousness), mid-agreeableness (women tend to score quite a bit higher than men here on average) and low neuroticism (again, women usually score higher than men). Quite a way off median female results. I'm not sure how much value there is in doing tests like that but the geek in me enjoys it. I think being with an older partner has also rubbed off on me quite a bit, I read some of my posts from 2015/16 here sometimes and I don't feel like the same person anymore. I do find your "borrowing" of biological terms to be quite amusing, I have never come across it before. It definitely gets your meaning across!
I feel like this may very with my mood. Also, this is very limited and not very scientific. That said, it is directionally accurate.
That score is a real statement! Hyper sexual kinky submissive, would you like me to come around with my strapon?
Hahahaha! I told you results might vary with mood. Guess I was a bit randy. I am on the hyper-sexual side though... there's some truth in the rest. LOL. Intriguing idea! Been trying to drum up some interest from my lady, with no luck. It's a first world problem though! LOL.
It's Saturday. It's okay to let your hair down and knock a few back. I've gotten out of my head plenty of times. Have fun! Be safe!
First world problem indeed. Honestly putting that thing on in front of a man is a scary prospect, I’m not sure I could do it. Luckily for me my guy isn’t into finding out what it could do for him.
Plenty of fear on both sides. Some of those things are intimidating as heck. Not sure how I would actually react. Deer in the headlights. LOL. On a more serious note, I totally opened my closet to my therapist today, by sharing some of my journal. I was shaking like a leaf and nearly in tears (not a cryer in any way) as I hit send. Waiting for the reply is torture. I have a session on Friday. Going to be interesting.
Intimidating. Interesting choice of words, he’d probably find it pretty intimidating if he was tied down on his belly and it had him in its sights Good luck with the shrink!
Thanks! This one may get emotional and I do not handle that well. She's a great shrink though and I'm going to find out if we're up to the challenge. I need to push myself, even if it is uncomfortable or painful. Haha! I just realized that last statement may apply to both topics. LOL! Restraints are not necessary for me. A stern look or sharp gesture and I am like putty.
You sound like a person I used to know, more practical thinking than emotional. I don't think there is anything wrong with that. I'm more emotional than clinical and I feel get on with the opposite better for whatever reason.
Yeah that sounds about right. I’m not completely unemotional or anything but I try not to fixate on my feelings, not the bad ones anyway. That doesn’t always happen though. My fiancé is pretty stoic and doesn’t show much emotion, he is affectionate though. I’ve only seen him cry twice and it takes a lot to make him angry, he’s had some rough luck but just seems to handle whatever life throws at him. It’s an attractive trait. Though I think it took a lot longer for us to build a strong bond than it has in the past with me and more emotional types.
Yes that is a good trait, sounds like you have a solid partner there . I think like you said life experiences do make people stronger. It takes alot for me to cry but I like to think I'm an empathetic person. As I've got older I've found it harder to have sex with people I am not completely in tune with or I don't know inside out. I don't know what that's about.
Sex is still a distant dream for me. But my results were interesting: Attraction: 50% Male , 50% Female Dominance: 50% Dominant 50% Submissive Medium sex drive 65% Vanilla, 35% Deviant 87.5% Affection, 12.5% Hedonism Yup, I'm a bisexual old fashioned romantic.. Beth