This is really just a PSA for why I may not be around the next couple weeks or may need additional support. My friend passed in an accident yesterday afternoon, he was about my age and I've known him basically my entire life. His family and I are devastated, it doesn't seem real or fair in the slightest. I Just wish he'd made it home ok...
I'm so sorry that this has happened. My condolences and take as much time as you need and were here for any support you might need with this. Hugs.
I'm so sorry to hear this. Like Rain says, we're here if you need us, but you need to look after yourself too so take all the time you need away from the forum if that helps. Whatever helps for you.
Thank you, at the moment I think keeping myself distracted is helping. It's only day one here on Earth without him. It's a form of living nightmare
Jack.....My condolences for your loss. Remember that we are here for you in this time of loss. Lean on us if you need to, vent if you need to or just share how you are feeling...we want to help in any way that we can. ......David
Thank you, David. I've known him since we were four or five, it shouldn't be this way. His arrangements are being made today, we all hope we can have an open casket but we don't know yet. I'm hoping I get to come and his mom doesn't make it family only, we get along and I've been told I'm basically family anyway- but that would be an additional blow for me. I know I'll have to wear a dress and makeup and despite that I still want to go to support them and say goodbye to my friend.
Jack.....I know how difficult this is for you, I've have lost close friends and family too. The fact that you are willing to go as fem really does show how much you do love him. As I said we are here for you...don't try to carry the grief all by yourself, let us help. Try to remember the good times that you had with your friend...I sure that is what he would have wanted. .....David
I’m sorry Jack, we are here when you’re ready but you need to look after yourself too. I can tell how much you loved him from the way you write about him and the things you say - he was very lucky to have you! Sending hugs
Jack, I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. Please do whatever you need to heal.. we're all here for you.
Hey Jack, I'm sorry to hear this. Sending out hugs and my condolences. Will PM you in a bit, Beth xxx
He was patient, kind, great at making things, loved games and legos and the outdoors, gave amazing hugs, cooked some of the best egg sandwiches. He was also a goofball, and one of the sweetest people I have ever met. I learned yesterday he liked me as more than a friend at least before I came out to him, not sure about after. I saw him like brother.
Thank you all. I'm currently so tired, at work at the moment and don't want to be. I fell asleep around 1:30am and had to get up at 6:45am
I am sorry to read about your loss Jack. I can imagine how difficult a time this is for you. It is okay to take some time for yourself and surround yourself with the support you need. It sounds like your friend's family knows you were close and that there was something special about your relationship. As other have said, it is more than okay to lean on us, it is okay to write out, what you need to say. (*hugs*)
Last night when I got home I took a shower, and then proceeded to sink down against my dresser and just sob. For one thing, I'd consistently gotten 5-6 hours of sleep the past three days. So total that's 18 hours max over three days. My mom and dad had been arguing with me over taking something they'd requested back to them because I was so sleep deprived and they were busy when I'd returned home. I told them I might stay and help with what they were doing, my mom said I need to quit insterting myself and let them grieve as a family. I had to ask his sister (my best friend) if I was butting in before I could try to sleep, thankfully I knew the truth and was right. I've had to work the past two days and can't take the two days after his funeral off. I hope I can make it through those without breaking down, I lasted til the tail ends of the first two.
Thank you, I need to respond to you and I'm sorry I haven't already. The holidays are a very hectic time for me due to choir and such, but I will try to soon