1. This site uses cookies. By continuing to use this site, you are agreeing to our use of cookies. Learn More.

You are submissive or dominant?

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by SeulgiBunny, Nov 18, 2017.

?

Submissive or dominant?

  1. submissive

    18 vote(s)
    39.1%
  2. dominant

    5 vote(s)
    10.9%
  3. a little of two

    23 vote(s)
    50.0%
  1. SeulgiBunny

    Regular Member

    Joined:
    Apr 23, 2017
    Messages:
    106
    Likes Received:
    11
    Location:
    Venezuela
    Gender:
    Female
    Gender Pronoun:
    She
    Sexual Orientation:
    Lesbian
    Out Status:
    All but family
    ♡ I'm a submissive person naturally, rarely i feel that i can have the control of something, it is kinda beautiful be submissive, i feel that kind of persons are better persons in my opinion; i'm not only talking about relationships but about life in general, mostly personality; i feel if I really fall in love with someone that person can have the perfect girl ♡
     
  2. Creativemind

    Regular Member

    Joined:
    Sep 4, 2015
    Messages:
    3,281
    Likes Received:
    410
    Location:
    Somewhere
    Gender:
    Other
    Gender Pronoun:
    Other
    Sexual Orientation:
    Other
    Out Status:
    Out to everyone
    Submissive. Very very submissive. Especially sexually/romantically...I can be a bit more aggressive in real life situations, but it turns me off sexually.
     
  3. AbsoluteNerd

    Regular Member

    Joined:
    Feb 6, 2017
    Messages:
    509
    Likes Received:
    99
    Location:
    Chicago suburbs
    Gender:
    Female (trans*)
    Gender Pronoun:
    She
    Sexual Orientation:
    Bisexual
    Out Status:
    Some people
    It depends on what I'm doing. Romantically, I'm more submissive, but as a friend or working with others on a project of any kind, I tend to take over.
     
  4. Spot

    Full Member

    Joined:
    May 24, 2015
    Messages:
    949
    Likes Received:
    84
    Location:
    Wonderland
    Gender:
    Male (trans*)
    Gender Pronoun:
    He
    Sexual Orientation:
    Other
    Out Status:
    Some people
    Both but leaning dominant, if we're talking sexually (at least according to my BDSM Test results :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes:)
     
  5. kibou97

    Full Member

    Joined:
    Jan 9, 2016
    Messages:
    782
    Likes Received:
    15
    Location:
    Kentucky
    Gender:
    Male
    Gender Pronoun:
    He
    Sexual Orientation:
    Gay
    Out Status:
    Some people
    Submissive both in general and sexual.
     
    #5 kibou97, Nov 18, 2017
    Last edited: Nov 18, 2017
  6. gravechild

    Regular Member

    Joined:
    Mar 20, 2013
    Messages:
    3,417
    Likes Received:
    107
    Gender:
    Androgyne
    Gender Pronoun:
    They
    Sexual Orientation:
    Bisexual
    Out Status:
    A few people
    Yes and no; both and neither
     
  7. Gideon

    Regular Member

    Joined:
    Jul 14, 2017
    Messages:
    36
    Likes Received:
    16
    Location:
    Ohio
    Gender:
    Male
    Gender Pronoun:
    He
    Sexual Orientation:
    Bisexual
    Out Status:
    Out to everyone
    Dominant
    I lead. Even when I'm trying very specifically -not- to, I lead.
    More interesting still....people react and follow, even when they don't necessarily intend to
     
  8. MsEmmzy

    Full Member

    Joined:
    May 24, 2014
    Messages:
    249
    Likes Received:
    26
    Location:
    BC, Canada
    Gender:
    Female (trans*)
    Gender Pronoun:
    She
    Sexual Orientation:
    Other
    Out Status:
    Out to everyone
    Sexually? Very sub. In day to day actions I tend more towards the sub side as well unless I know the people then I get more neutral.
     
  9. Jinkies

    Full Member

    Joined:
    Oct 27, 2011
    Messages:
    2,302
    Likes Received:
    29
    Location:
    Northern Ireland
    Gender:
    Female (trans*)
    Gender Pronoun:
    She
    Sexual Orientation:
    Bisexual
    Out Status:
    Out to everyone
    Well, I have anxiety (or at least, I'm thought to have it by at least 2 professionals of differing nationalities and I'm getting treatment for it in February). That, and the fact that most of how my body reacts is in relation to myself being on the receiving end of things puts me squarely in the submissive zone.
     
  10. Biguy45

    Full Member

    Joined:
    Nov 5, 2017
    Messages:
    1,295
    Likes Received:
    476
    Location:
    United states
    Gender:
    Male
    Gender Pronoun:
    He
    Sexual Orientation:
    Bisexual
    Out Status:
    Not out at all
    In regular life, dominant. Sexually, very submissive, with men or women
     
  11. Secrets5

    Full Member

    Joined:
    Oct 28, 2015
    Messages:
    1,964
    Likes Received:
    77
    Location:
    UK
    Gender:
    Female
    Gender Pronoun:
    She
    Sexual Orientation:
    Bisexual
    Out Status:
    A few people
    If I were to have a relationship, I think I would be dominant in every day situations. However, I am not sure sexually, I don't really like to think about that.
     
  12. HerRainbow

    Full Member

    Joined:
    Mar 29, 2017
    Messages:
    251
    Likes Received:
    10
    Location:
    Yorkshire
    Gender:
    Female
    Gender Pronoun:
    She
    Sexual Orientation:
    Lesbian
    Out Status:
    A few people
    In everyday situations, I am more sub/neutral. Romantically I can be very submissive.
     
  13. Suomi

    Regular Member

    Joined:
    Oct 23, 2017
    Messages:
    363
    Likes Received:
    10
    Location:
    Los Angeles, Ca. USA
    Gender:
    Male
    Gender Pronoun:
    He
    Sexual Orientation:
    Gay
    Out Status:
    Some people
    I'm both.
     
  14. Kodo

    Full Member

    Joined:
    May 27, 2015
    Messages:
    1,830
    Likes Received:
    849
    Location:
    California
    Gender:
    Male (trans*)
    Gender Pronoun:
    He
    Sexual Orientation:
    Gay
    Out Status:
    Out to everyone
    In a romantic sense, leaning dominant. I would not say I am ever a submissive person, only non-confrontational and passively independent. Live and let live as a rule, but if it's someone I care about I can be more assertive.
     
  15. love doll

    Regular Member

    Joined:
    Apr 27, 2015
    Messages:
    106
    Likes Received:
    9
    Location:
    Lucknow UP (India)
    Gender:
    Female (trans*)
    Gender Pronoun:
    She
    Sexual Orientation:
    Bisexual
    Out Status:
    Out to everyone
    Aggressive in real life but completely submissive in sex. Extremely submissive. And in fact that gives the pleasure. The sense of being possessed and owned by him completely at that time...
     
  16. redsky

    Regular Member

    Joined:
    Nov 20, 2017
    Messages:
    19
    Likes Received:
    7
    Location:
    Europe
    Gender:
    Female
    Gender Pronoun:
    She
    Sexual Orientation:
    Questioning
    Out Status:
    Some people
    in general life mostly submissive, and sexually submissive as well
     
  17. BiDragon

    Regular Member

    Joined:
    Aug 20, 2017
    Messages:
    121
    Likes Received:
    27
    Location:
    America
    Gender:
    Male (trans*)
    Gender Pronoun:
    He
    Sexual Orientation:
    Bisexual
    Out Status:
    A few people
    It usually depends on what gender I’m in a relationship with/have a crush on. With women, I usually seem a bit more dominant, but with men I’m usually more submissive.
     
  18. Aberrance

    Full Member

    Joined:
    Feb 18, 2016
    Messages:
    989
    Likes Received:
    134
    Location:
    England
    Gender:
    Male (trans*)
    Gender Pronoun:
    He
    Sexual Orientation:
    Gay
    Out Status:
    Out to everyone
    Personality-wise I'm annoyingly more submissive, very non-assertive and I hate confrontation. I'd love to be more dominant and have natural leadership qualities, I'm working on it.

    Sexually I'm also submissive, which I love when we get properly into role but my boyfriend and I have switched it up a few times and I like to dominate on occasion.
     
  19. Cinnamon Bunny

    Regular Member

    Joined:
    May 23, 2016
    Messages:
    423
    Likes Received:
    290
    Location:
    South USA
    Gender:
    Genderqueer
    Gender Pronoun:
    He
    Sexual Orientation:
    Bisexual
    Out Status:
    A few people
    This is an interesting topic. I've been wondering if people who are generally submissive tend to be sexually submissive and visa versa.
     
  20. Creativemind

    Regular Member

    Joined:
    Sep 4, 2015
    Messages:
    3,281
    Likes Received:
    410
    Location:
    Somewhere
    Gender:
    Other
    Gender Pronoun:
    Other
    Sexual Orientation:
    Other
    Out Status:
    Out to everyone
    Sometimes yes and sometimes no. I am generally a bit more dominant in real life (I guess?) but sexually submissive.

    There's a saying out there that a lot of the most aggressive pro-equality kind of women tend to also be the ones who want to be whipped and on their feet in the bedroom. It doesn't always apply, but in many ways it does happen.
     
    #20 Creativemind, Nov 22, 2017
    Last edited: Nov 22, 2017