Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by Kaiser, Jan 21, 2015.
"You can't have premarital sex. So marry a guy and sleep with him before deciding you're a lesbian."
"You'll marry a man/You're only gay because you don't get along with your mother/You're not childfree, you'll be a mommy one day/You're a "pervert" because you aren't close enough to God." - All of this from the same lady.
If changing myself was that simple, I would not be the piece of shit you see before you.
Oh god, where do I even start?
"You need to tell your mother everything about your life. It's her right to know!"
Given how insanely expensive college can be, that isn't that bad of advice
I remember one day, I was complaining to Dad about something and I was getting pretty frustrated. His advice for me was to "Stop being so emotional and bottle it all up". Yep, that's some good advice to kill my sanity.
I was getting scared about going near fears on a school hike. I said that I really wanted my ipod for music, meditation and so on. They pretty much told me it was stupid and that I would be fine because I would be around friends and friends would just make it 1000x easier. This friend they are referring to likes to compete with me when I have a problem.
Back in the late 90s when the stock market, primarily the NASDAQ, was on fire my accountant advised me to take out a home equity loan and invest the money in the market. I did and soon realized that was horrible advise. I sold the rapidly falling stocks, paid off the loan and changed accountants.
Oh, I don't know if this counts and some may disagree, but that commercial that says the way to tell your teen peers you don't want to drink is to say you promised your dad you wouldn't. Sorry, but with the idiots I grew up with, that's a really good way to get your ass kicked and your head shoved down a toilet.
Adults also don't seem to understand that ignoring bullies or snitching on them is not productive at all.
I really don't miss school at all.
Oh God. I went to a movie with my cousin, who has chosen a very safe health career. She seems so worried that I left my science PhD and am now trying to go into art. I think in some sense, there is a worry she herself has chosen a career she didn't really love but looked up as one of the fastest growing ones.
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Unless it's the Ivy League or similarly top tier colleges, students are getting ripped off thinking $$$ school's degree is worth more than $$ and $'s schools' degree. I am lucky to have never needed a loan for my schooling, but I know I am unusual. Many of my friends who are also very smart took community college gen ed courses, or did other things to minimize their costs.
"You just need a girlfriend. Your having girlfriend withdrawals."
Yup, a girl is all I need to be happy. That advice is on point.
"Just wing it."
"Don't waste your effort in high school, half of the work won't even be in college anyways."
"Don't be a baby."
This one ... referring to depression, by saying something like:
"Just snap out of it."
And this one, sort of implied and said by using a metaphor and some parallel examples:
'Allow yourself to be stepped on to keep the peace.'
I remember writing a thread yeaaaaaaaars ago about a guy I thought was interested in me, and someone suggested that I try to get him drunk and take advantage of him.... >_>
My mother frequently gives bad advice. It usually has to do with praying to God to take away my problems. She always tells me that if I pray and go to the religious meetings, that my depression will go away. Ah, yes, momther, I'm sure cancer patients do that as well. Oh, wait, they still end up dying from their disease anyway. >_>
Basically when I am depressed, and people say to 'just' cheer up.
Me at 2 in the morning at 10 years old: MUM!... I HAVE BUG IN MY EAR!!
Mum: it's probably just a mosquito go back to sleep
after I complained more mum killed it with tea tree oil. the next day the doctor said a beetle had scratched my ear bloody and I was lucky I didn't loose my hearing.
"It's probably just a mosquito go back to sleep" she said -_-
Find a masculine woman instead
That's YOUR decision. Not someones else's. But I know you know that.
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This is almost beyond belief. It's not even something that I've heard or would have crossed my mind. It just goes to show how people's minds work in mysterious ways.
Just like an overly feminine man may be gay, though not always, an overly masculine woman may be a lesbian, though not always, and then you would have to go through the uncoupling process if that is the case. The person, or people, who said this is/are clueless.
Someone saying "just get over it" is fucking terrible advice, seriously, if someone is really stressed over something and they hear this it will just piss them off.
Agree, this is bad advice. It's like "if I could do that don't you think I would?" lol.
to take my own advice...lol the advice i gave her didnt even apply to my situation
"Why not try being happy?" closely followed by "You don't know until you've tried!!"
Relative to almost any trouble I have. I hear it a lot. It's frustrating.