So it turns out I was completely wrong about my spouse supporting me. I came out to her as bisexual six months ago, and she took it well. She's acted extremely supportive since then. She even encouraged us to test the waters of an open marriage so that I could explore my attraction to men. That turned out to be a disaster. She told me she wants a divorce last week. For the last several years I dealt with severe depression mostly stemming from repressing my self-disgust at not being masculine enough and denying my sexuality, dealing with my pain by being angry all the time. She tells me now that she stopped loving me years ago from dealing with my frequent random angry outbursts, and has just been acting like she did because she thought that was what a wife had to do. Apparently she only encouraged us to experiment with an open marriage because she hoped I leave her for another man. She has told me that even if we could heal the past hurts, we could never have a second chance because she needs someone more masculine. She cannot see herself being married to a bisexual. The positive of all this is that it has forced me to be open with family and friends about my sexuality, as well as all the depression I dealt with as a result of it. I'm now out to all my immediate family and most close friends. We have to tell our children tonight that we're separating. I'm not quite sure how to also be upfront about my sexuality without making it sound like I was the one who wanted to leave. I don't want them to blame either parent. Since everyone else familiar with the divorce knows, there is no way to keep that part out for later.