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Why is it easier to befriend girls than guys?

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by Joe2001, Mar 22, 2020.

  1. AJ56

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    Huh. I have never had this happen to me. My female friends know I'm gay and respect that. I have a good female friend who doesn't even do those stereotypical things with me. We talk about our interests. Like our love of gardening and nature. We can have deep conversations about literally anything.
     
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    Maybe gay men are more in touch with the feminine sides the straight guys, I feel more comfortable around women, my best friend is a woman and the only one who knows I'm gay.
     
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    Girls are (usually) less likely to be homophobic.
     
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    I don't know about that
     
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    Not sure about girls being less likely to be homophobic either. Many might not appear it because being around a gay guy looks trendy but in reality, I feel that wanting a gay guy to be your GBF is kinda homophobic in a way as well.

    There are also stats that women are more religious than men.

    Whilst toxic masculinity is still an issue IMO, I do think that guys today are generally more accepting of LGBT people than before.
     
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    I am going to respectfully disagree with you on that. I think girls like having gay friends because they know they won't be hit on by them. I don't think that's homophobic.

    Also, being religious doesn't necessarily mean that someone is against LGBT people. There are religious denominations that are open to having LGBT members (such as the Episcopal church)
     
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    At the same time, plenty of girls basically see and treat gay men as "one of the girls" (plenty of members have written about being uncomfortable with it). Could these assumptions and treatments be an example of "benign homophobia"?

    Funny thing: out of all the people I came out to, it was only the females who used the "f word" after arguments. So I would say women are less likely to be... violently homophobic, but with views like "I can't see someone who has kissed or had sex with another man as a man"...

    Plus I'm sure some of the female members of the site have a different view from the guys. Plenty of folk hold a double standard when it comes to gay people of the opposite vs same sex (also whether they're attracted to them or not)
     
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    Doesn’t make logical sense to me, lol. If the two guys being a couple aren’t men, then none of them kissed a man so it won’t make any of them not a man???

    Meh, I feel that straight people are completely unaware of how gender works in the LGBT. That we’ve got plenty of people who don’t fit well any of the two cisheteronormative boxes and that being gay doesn’t mean that you aren’t happy being a masculine gay man with a penis or a feminine lesbian woman with a vagina. I get that all the time too. People think that since I have a masculine gender expression and this is what makes me feel comfortable, I must want to pursue sex change surgery or must hate my breasts. I identify as a man and this is how I want to be treated, so that changes things a bit in the more confusing direction for the cisheterosexuals. But still. They have views that don’t apply outside their world.

    Yeah, I would think men tend to be more rude and violent, but it doesn’t necessarily mean they are unfriendly. I tbh always get that with women, I don’t mean nothing and they get offended. Women on the other hand can be mean behind your back, so there is more false politeness.
     
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    Yes, I agree. Girls are more accepting of the lgbt community. While guys think that you are less of a man if you like man.
     
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    I think it's mostly because girls tend to be more open to having relationships and talking to people. Guys, I think, have a harder time socializing with strangers. I notice that while girls will sit with total strangers (usually other girls), guys tend to sit with people that they know well or know by association (usually other guys). There's always that same table of guys in the class but girls will switch around and end up with a stranger or two. I think that when talking to guys, a lot of the time, you have to find that one thing in common you both can talk about before a friendship starts forming.