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Why did I see a gay dream though I am heterosexual?

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by Anony2207, Feb 12, 2018.

  1. Anony2207

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    So I am a heterosexual male and I was in relationship with a girl for quite sometime but had a nasty breakup last year. So a few days back I had this gay dream. I would like to explain the dream a little. As far as I remember it started with me getting dressed up as a girl by 2 girls who appeared to be my friends. And after they were done they were joking around and I don't remember exactly what happened after that but then I was sucking on a guy's cock. He came in my mouth and the girls were cheering on while I was blowing him. And then one of the girls said now the real challenge or something like that and took out a strapon and I woke up. I felt really strange and weird as I have never had such a thought when I am awake or even in my dream before. I remember only once I had crossdressed by a friend of mine as I had lost a bet but it was a close door thing. And I was just wearing clothes not make up and stuff but I vividly remember that in this dream I was completely dolled up with a wig and even wearing lingerie. And I didn't have such a dream then..this incident was 3 years back. So I don't know how to explain this so it would be nice if you guys can help. When I shared this with a friend she advised me to recreate the dream in real life but I am not sure this is the right advise. So would want to hear your opinion-Is this normal? What should I make of it? I am sorry for the long post
     
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    Do you wanna recreate it in real life, though? Will it make you genuinely happy, or would just turn you on as it is a foreign concept? If the thought makes you uncomfortable, most probably you are straight, who once had a 'gay dream'. Everyone has them, and it is 'normal'. Nothing abnormal about being gay, so first change this mindset. Maybe it's a kink. Would you be turned on by a man if there were no women involved, like in your dream? Many men, who never thought of kissing a guy, have had such dreams. And it honestly means nothing much, except for if you do genuinely think you could be sexually and romantically involved with a man in real life. Don't stress it! So far, you seem confident that you are straight, and your word is enough.
     
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    Hey sorry for not following up. But actually very recently I had another dream. It wasn’t sexual but I was crossdressing in Indian and then apparently going out for a performance in front of a crowd. I am thinking about giving crossdressing a try. What’s your opinion?
     
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    Why did you not answer the interesting questions of BecKEY first?
     
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    Which question are you talking about?
     
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    Nothing wrong with trying out crossdressing if it seems interesting to you. As for your dream about oral sex... do you have a recollection as to how the dream itself seemed to you? Did you find yourself aroused? Have you tried masturbating without porn, thinking about oral sex (or other sexual activities) with guys? Doing that a few times and seeing what, if any, arousal/excitement you get from it will usually give you a pretty clear picture of where your unconscious attractions lie.
     
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