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Who has actually embraced their identity?

Discussion in 'LGBT Later in Life' started by MS001, Apr 7, 2016.

  1. MS001

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    Can you tell me if you actually embraced your identity and became engaged in the LGBT community? If you did, what keeps you coming back to this site? Just wondering.
     
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    yes i have, and i joined the local pride society and i am learning how to become active in my community! I come back sometimes because i like to check up on how the people who helped me are doing. this is a safe place and i have recommended it to youth, however no one knows who we all are on here. :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes:
     
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    Whole-heartedly, although I'm still working on actualizing it.

    I come here because I enjoy queer community and issues, and because I feel like I have perspectives that help people. The people here (young and older) make me think in new ways about issues...we have some rather insightful members, and I learn a great deal by reading *all* the thoughts. At the very worst, I learn what many people think...or the intricacies of what those who disagree with me think. It's usually a good experience.

    And then once in a while I actually seem to help someone with something I write. That alone might be enough to keep me coming back.

    But it's also nice sometimes just to goof around, make jokes, and be a general smart-arse.

    If I had come here for help, then I might have left when I'd received it. But I didn't. I came here looking for community, and found a rather nice one. So I've stayed. *smile*
     
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    Never mind. I will start a new thread on embracing bisexuality.
     
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    im starting to after a long dark scary closet nightmare
     
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    My answer is complicated. In short yes. And no.

    I have embraced my identity, I love me and I'm proud of me, including being queer. But I am still learning alot about myself, have very little experience with women, and have a lot to sort through in my life, in terms of my marriage particularly.

    So I have a long way to go and more emotional hurdles will likely come as I knock down more walls.

    I am engaged with the local LGBT community as well, and it's been a wonderful experience for me. But it takes time to really make friends and to feel a part of a community.

    I came here to EC for more than just support, I came also for the community, and I think I'll stick around for a long time, even after I feel my queer life is mostly sorted.
     
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    Heh. I find it interesting that this thread and my post here have preyed on my mind somewhat, since I posted.

    It's not quite as simple as that, maybe. There seems to be somewhat of a case of not being 100% in touch with *all* of my reasons for coming here. Certainly, the intent of my membership was to find queer community, discuss LGBT issues, and to help others.

    But I have to admit that although I embraced my sexuality fully as early as age 16, I have undergone a tremendous evolution in how it impacts me, and the implications to me of that evolution. I have used online forums for years now to explore the annoying/disturbing fact that I am bisexual in a monogamous relationship, and feel increasingly that a significant part of my sexuality to be un-actualized.

    This has been about a 10-year journey for me, from my starting point as a staunchly monogamous-minded soul toward realizing that I have some significantly polyamorous leanings. In the past 2-3 years, I have started, *finally*, to embrace this. But I'm still not there, fully. There is so much shame that our society [hypocritically] directs at people (particularly at women) who don't fit the monogamous model of its ideals.

    So yeah...I am partly here for support (although I would have to say I've received at least as much flack for exploring this issue here as I have support)...just not directly related to my sexuality. But I have received some significant support, and met some incredible people.

    Still, I suspect that when I've reached a point where I'm fully at peace around *all* aspects of my sexuality and how it is actualized, I will still come here, as long as this place is around (hopefully, a long time), for the reasons I cited in my post above.

    Sorry for the lengthy clarification...but I felt it only right to clarify my first post.
     
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    I always feel like the odd one out here. And my answer would be pretty much no for the following reason:

    I live in Mississippi. Rural Mississippi. There really isn't any LGBT community near where I live to speak of. Yes, I'm serious. No, I'm not exaggerating.

    That being said, there are a lot of lesbians and bisexual women that I work with. That's really how all this came to be in my life. I finally met up with these ladies at a get together, and I really, really liked them....my current gf started inviting me to do things.

    I may be getting ahead of myself, but when I do move from this area (when my youngest heads off to college) I am hoping to move somewhere where there is a larger LGBT presence and community....and hopefully a beach. Yes, I think I can deal with those two things. :wink:
     
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    I have embraced it and feel positively about my identity nowadays. But despite getting involved in community efforts, not worrying so much about others' opinions, etc, I still struggle with internalized shame that keeps me coming back here. And I see others struggling with it too and hope I can help.
     
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    Yes, i'm totally out. I have no issue kissing my bf (when I had one!) in the street to say goodbye to him; I'm looking to volunteer with a national AIDS charity (not sure doing what, but feel I want to do something), and want to take part in a pride march somewhere in the UK. I feel like I have a new life to live that I should've lived a long time ago.

    Why do I come back to the site? Because it helps me to understand myself better when I articulate my thoughts and feelings about the latest stage in the journey I am undertaking. If what I write can even chime in the slightest way with someone else then I will help them see that they are not alone. Being alone was what i felt when I went through the coming out experience with my ex wife, and it was truly terrifying to feel that I was all alone, nowhere to turn to that I could get help to understand what was happening to me and how I might try and deal with it. It also gave me a chance to talk and talk through what I felt and what I might try and do next to deal with everything.

    Plus, this site is amazing. It is truly a place where you can come and not be judged.
     
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