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Who am I?

Discussion in 'Gender Identity and Expression' started by Lovri, Oct 17, 2020.

  1. Lovri

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    Hi, I am supposedly male gay... I just want to know is it normal to have a girly personality?

    Before coming out (to my sister) I was very sure that I was gay it suddenly came to me how I liked guys. But then... a sudden thought came to me - I always acted a lot like a typical woman. I started questioning myself did I ever not feel good as a man? I didnt remeber anything. But my mind kept going at me : 'You are just too scared to go further than gay; Trans people are a taboo you arent going to risk that...'

    And then I came out. I already accepted the fact that I'm gay I just needed someone else to accept me. They did.

    So just now I am wondering. Are male gays suppoosed to be manly or is that just a artificial thought of a person who is insecure?
    Is it ok to be girly or do gay men want masculine chads?
     
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  2. Hawk

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    Not all men are masculine, and not all women are feminine, there's plenty of feminine men and masculine women. Personality doesn't have anything to do with gender identity. If you feel like you were meant to be female and you are uncomfortable living as male, there may be something there to work through. However, it sounds like you're a cis guy.
     
  3. Lovri

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    Thank you very much!
     
  4. Robyn mac

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  5. ChescaC

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    I gotta agree with Hawk.

    The sociocultural demand for people to be a certain way based on their biological sex is very restrictive in my eyes.

    You be you. Darn the naysayers and full speed ahead.