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Which one of your parents took it better when you came out?

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by Andrew99, May 10, 2017.

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Who took it better when you came out?

Poll closed Aug 8, 2017.
  1. My mom was more accepting than my dad

    25.8%
  2. My dad was more accepting than my mom

    15.2%
  3. They were both accepting

    25.8%
  4. Neither of them were accepting

    6.1%
  5. I haven't come out to them yet

    13.6%
  6. Other (please specify)

    13.6%
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  1. Nachtmahr

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    Both were accepting.

    My dad somehow struggled with the information and was a little more hesitant than my mum at first, I could see that. He got over it soon though.
     
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    My mom took it really well but I haven't told my dad. To clarify I haven't seen my dad in probably two years now. I do have his number. I am able to contact him. It's just that the rest of my family advises that I don't contact him. He never talked about religion or politics though so I don't even have the slightest clue about how he would react.
     
  3. Andrew99

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    That's pretty much how it went for me as well.
     
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    I think my mom knew before I did... lol. My dad had already passed away before I came out to mom but she said he would have been just fine with it.
     
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    It didn't take my mom long to come around, but my dad hasn't really spoken to me since.
    Seems too worried about what his "friends" might think of him. Who knows.
     
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    I'm only out to my mom and she's fine with it. My dad, I have no idea.
     
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    Neither technically. My dad died when I was very young and I'm not interested in doing a séance to find out.

    I've never officially told my mom about my sexuality. There have been a few weird WTF moments in the past when I said I was gay. She seemed like she was about to go from 1 to 100. I know she's definitely suspected it when I was younger, before the weird blurting. For example, there used to be a commercial with Hiedi (sp?) Klum that was a remake for a famous Tom Cruise scene. My mom used to give me so much grief over it. She kept accusing me of enjoying it too much. If I did, I don't think it was obvious to me. I would always be confused (and ashamed, quite frankly) when she would say this.

    I once came out as trans when I was much younger and she was supportive. However, a few years ago, I stated that I didn't feel female or male. It was a mistake that I really regretted.

    She's very religious now, hence the massive change in her attitude towards these things. Anyway, I've told her that I'm straight and she believes me.
     
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    I don't care what mother would say cause she abandoned me before i could crawl or
    talk and won't tell even if i should know where she is.

    Papá would likely accept it :lol:, maybe take a bit longer about the non-male stereotype.
    His hope was for me to be happy, i know because of my name meaning.
    I wish i could stay whit him long enough so i could tell and (*hug*) him.
     
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    My mother was more accepting, but only by a very small amount. It did not take long for my dad to swing around at all.
     
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    My mom has been very accepting and supportive about it all while my dad hasn't spoken to me in about 7 years but to be fair we never really got along that well to begin with.
     
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    Dad by far.
     
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    I'll clarify.

    My dad accepts. Doesn't really support. My mom... tolerates.
     
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    When I came out to my mother, she was supportive. She just worries about me and how other people might react, but so does any other good, accepting mother... She still needs a bit of work on her supportive stance, though.

    My dad died when I was younger, before I found out my sexuality(still finding out about it now, though), so I don't know how he would've reacted.
     
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    Considering my father was never involved in my life and we don't talk lol...my mom was more accepting of me for who I am. She still goes through phases of denial or anger about it, but I'm her only "child," so I suppose it's not easy for her to accept me being gay, especially for someone of her generation who was brought up differently than I was. But at the end of the day, she loves me for who I am, she's proud of me, and she just wants me to be myself and be happy.
    Haters gon hate (!!)
     
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    i havent told my parents properly. but my mum has told me she doesnt want me dating a girl because "being gay is so hard" and she wants biological grandchildren. she also makes me wear feminine clothes and if i dont she'll embarrass me at the function. my dad however is the opposite. he says he doesnt care who i like or what i look like as long as im safe and happy.
     
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    Neither ever have. Disowned at 14. Still struggle with it at 34 but back in therapy for it now
     
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    That sucks, but you know what? You're still fucking awesome.