Hey friends I do believe I'm ready for another step. The problem is, I don't know where to start. Dating is such a huge step that I dont know where to grab it, where to start and everything around it. Everyone tells me that the best way to find someone is going to parties. I'm really not a party girl. I don't drink, I don't like loud music and I don't like these light conversations. I simply don't like them. Are there any other possibilities? Online or stuff like that... Also, if you know Apps, could you maybe give me some recemmondations? Just as a start. I feel quite ready for this I think it's a bit late for all of this... But I'm just on my own way and I really shouldn't care about what everyone else thinks about me I'm me and that's all I need Thanks to everyone replying
How out are you? If your friends etc know you could see if they know any lesbian/bi girls? Even if they are in relationships or you’re not interested in them, it might be a way to get to know some other non straight girls. Is there any social groups in your area? A lesbian/bi/lgbt one would probably be best but as said above if you’re into sports that might be a place to start (stereotypes usually exist for a reason!) There are loads of options online including multiple apps. I don’t want to name specific ones as think that might be against forum rules but have a search online. In my personal experience most are pretty heteronormative but there are ones for lgbt folk if you look a bit deeper. Online dating can be great but it can also be a bit of a minefield! I’m sure your sensible but it can be easy to get caught up in what someone is saying or how nice they are being over a message. Just bear bear in mind that you don’t actually know them and if you do decide to meet in person, always meet somewhere public and tell a friend where you are going and roughly when you think you’ll be back. Update them if your plans change, a quick text can stop people worrying! Good luck and try not to put pressure on yourself to find someone, just have fun
Thank you I'm all out of the closet now ^^ I take a look around. There are sadly no lgbt groups in my area, but I'll keep looking
I agree that while online dating can be a minefield, but it also can be great (I met my wife on a popular online dating site). Here's another good side to online dating: When I first came out, I knew absolutely no one in the gay community. I tuned to online dating sort of a last resort. I started dating someone pretty quickly, and while we ultimately weren't a good couple, I had a good time, and more important, she was an escort into the gay community. Through her, I met a lot of lesbians and gay men, I learned where all the gay bars are (even though I don't hang out in bars, it was still good to know), I learned about local LGBT groups--it was a really fantastic introduction into the local gay community. If you do try online dating, just be careful. Use common sense (such as meeting people in public places), and you'll be fine. Online dating is much more the norm now than it used to be.
