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When you're unsure...

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by SwirlingOcean, Jun 11, 2013.

  1. SwirlingOcean

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    Sometimes I think that I made this whole gay thing up in my head because it took me completely by surprise. But I can't be the only one that does this. Sometimes I just KNOW that I'm gay. Sometimes I worry that I'm not and I really freak out. So I always do a little gay test on myself...lol

    Does anyone else who is confused or unsure google "hot men" look at the pics and see if you start thinking...thoughts? :wink: then google "hot women" and repeat?

    This is what I do just to make sure I'm still gay. It really puts my mind at ease when I stress about how I've come out to people and what if this was just a figment of my imagination. I know it sounds silly, but whenever I'm in doubt I do this and every single time I realize "yup. I'm fucking gay." :thumbsup: works every time.
     
  2. Rachael222

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    Haha, I do the same thing. You'd think with all the many positive gay tests I do on myself that I'd give up worrying that I'm wrong, eh?
     
  3. Martjain

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    I do the same but with women.
     
  4. smokey-knows-all

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    i get scared like that too! like what if i fall in love with a guy some day (unlikely but still worries me) and everybody i know decides the whole gay thing is just a load of crap? and sometimes i get scared that everybody in my life will hate me which makes me hate myself. stupid anxiety. isn't being a teenager fun?? :dry:
     
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    I know that I'm gay, but I often question if I'm really bisexual and more attracted to women. However, what reassures me is thinking about waking up next to a man. I've been with men before, but it was during a time when I could not accept myself. I mean, I'd like to think that I'm past all of that, but I'm not so sure. I'm like, a 5 on the Kinsey scale, which leaves little room for men. But I do not actively seek out men. It seems like they're flocking to me now, that I've finally accepted who I am. It's really annoying actually because it took me years to become comfortable with who I am. Anytime I question myself, I think about what it would feel like kissing a guy and it just doesn't feel right. No more questioning needed. Just follow your heart :slight_smile:
     
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    i do that all the time. i had never even thought about the idea of being gay. i was fine with it, but it was something for someone else, then one day it was like the idea just appeared in my head and i couldn't get rid of it. its basically the reason i'm not out yet, because i'm worried that i will tell everyone, then realize i made it all up.
    i do the picture thing too, or if i'm out i try it with real people :icon_wink. it generally works until the next time something comes up to make me doubt myself
     
  7. FreeFlow9917

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    Hell yeah, but the guys win all the fn time. Yay
     
  8. destiny99

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    I'm glad I'm not the only one!
     
  9. UnrequitedLove

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    Im Feeling The Same Way :[ I Need Help Too