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When you're closeted and avoiding family's questions about your personal life

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by 18breanna, Jun 7, 2017.

  1. 18breanna

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    Time for another summer of dodging the dreaded "Do you date/like any boys?" questions :eusa_liar

    Anyone else find this a little too relatable

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    How do you guys who are closeted to family deal with these questions
     
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    I've seen this suggestion used in another context but how about answering, "When do you need to know by?"
     
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    Lol! That's a slick comeback
     
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    Me, personally, my mom was so conservative that she was totally okay with me not dating. In highschool she was quite convinced that i would much rather focus on school than boys. You could go this route too, and its something i would think most parents would be pleased with, provided you really do well in school and have dreams or ambitions to talk about and plan with them to distract them away from the dreaded boy conversation. Cause to me keeping up with a lie or constantly coming up with comebacks would be mentally exhausting, so i just distract with conversation as much as possible.
     
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    I use that one with my friends a lot, and since my family moves frequently "I move around too much" works too
     
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    That picture of Jodie foster is me af
     
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    I just tell my family that I am willing to be an eligible bachelorette and that usually ends the conversation if I'm seeing anyone.

    Best part: I tell them I will never accidentally get pregnant, cause ladies.
     
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    Haha well for my parents it went something like this. They would ask the dreaded question and be relieved when I wasn't dating anyone. They were actually happy with this for so long that they stopped asking for ages! But then they suddenly realised me not dating guys went on for too long.

    So when I told my parents I was bi, my mum's instant reaction seemed to be one of relief :lol:
     
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    When people ask me I generally say "at this age? fuck no"
     
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    My response list,
    "Who said it was (insert opposite gender)?" For talking to other queer people because they forget to include other genders too.
    "Knowledge has a price." *Winks* - basically my more friendly version of fuck off. When people ask what the price is, improvise lol.
    "Wait I thought you told me not allowed to date anyone?" For my wacky parents who ask these things even though they told me no dating till 17 previously, but parents get to do w.e they want and rescind and change their statements at will even though yours are eternally binding because they are "the parents".
     
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    I think these situations are really nobody's business. If you're not dating the person...why even care. I am out to family, but I don't get asked these questions and neither do my straight siblings. My family just assumes It's not their business and leaves it at that.
     
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    I'm glad my family doesn't ask questions about my personal life any more. They used to a few years back. They just assume everything now.
    At least that keeps some anxiety driving conversations from happening.
    (last picture is me every time I hear "when you've got a wife/girlfriend")
     
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    Luckily my dad (i don't count my mother because it's a long story) didn't keep me under pressure saying "when will you get a gf/wife?", the only thng he told me "when it happens, it happens". And I wouldn't have liked to share details about me and the people im dating with my family, at the moment at least.