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When did you realize?

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by BothWaysSecret, May 31, 2017.

  1. DrZoidberg

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    When I was 12 I sorta knew that I was trans, but I didn't accept that part of me until I had tried to kill myself, which really sucked.

    A year later, I'm happier and healthier! :grin:
     
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    I think it's safe to say that I knew I was different when I was 11, and started questioning at 15/16 and finally realized what I am when I was about 23/24. I'm 29 now :grin:
     
  3. shootingstar

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    first realised when I was 13 and immediately tried to forget about it. Finally accepted it when I was 17/18.
     
  4. ShortButSweet

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    Think I've known from a young age but did the whole conforming thing. I'm 36 now, openly gay and happy
     
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    I kind of always knew I was a man, finally realised it when I hit puberty. I thought I was gay until last year, when I fell in love with a woman.
     
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    Around age 13 is when I would see a cute girl and think, "I'm not gay, but I would TOTALLY go out with her... and move in with her, and propose to her, and marry her, and raise kids with her- but I'm straight, right?" And last year, I had read a bunch of stuff on bisexuality but STILL believed I was straight as spaghetti. One day a few months before my 15th birthday, I was in the middle of doing nothing in particular when I realized, like a slap to the face: OH SHIZ. I'M BISEXUAL. As for gender identity... I'm not sure how to describe it other than it's back and fourth between masculine and feminine, and I don't ever feel right. Something is always slightly off, be it my chest or my voice or my feminine looking face. The dysphoria isn't bad all the time, though. It's like I'm wearing shoes that are slightly too tight. Sometimes I can manage to forget about it, but other times the discomfort is all I can think about, it nagging in the back of my mind.
     
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    I likes putting on my sisters clothing when I was 4 but only found out last year
     
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    I was like 11 or something
     
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    18 came out initially as bi at 24 but didn't come out as gay until I was 25
     
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    Somewhere between 15 and 17, I think. Started to doubt being straight when I was tossing off to Rated R stuff and thought that I'd much rather be on the receiving end, doubt got stronger when I thought about guys instead of girls, being gay was kinda hard to deny when I started crushing on guys. Came out at 17, been out to everyone since 18.
     
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    12 when I saw this gorgeous boy on the track team. Being a boy I knew that was wrong lol
     
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    I thought I was bisexual at first. I didn't have feelings for guys but I knew I was supposed to and I daydreamed about guys. I daydreamed about fictional characters I made up in my head and as such were not realistically male. I was young. When I was about 16 a retreat team came to our school and I fell in love. Less love and more a giant crush. There was a guy on the retreat team every girl n the school said was unbelievably gorgeous. I didn't get that he was okay looking but did nothing for me. Then I met one of the girls and had an epiphany. I only knew her all of one day but I was smitten. But that day everything made sense. I didn't like guys at all, and all those times I would stare at som girl and find ways to around them I thought it was admiration but I was crushing on them. I literally dreamed about that girl.
     
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    I was in middle school when I realized my sexuality, and I’ve recently realized my gender.
     
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    Well I realized I different when I was little, kinda evolved over the years.