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When did you have your firsts?

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  1. Alder

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    There have probably been a few threads similar to this, but just curious to anyone who is willing to share.

    When did you have your first kiss/first had sex/first time dating someone? How was it all like/if you're willing to provide context?

    Sometimes I feel like I'm too old to have not experienced these things yet (though by all objective means I'm still young).
     
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    First kiss: Never

    First sex: Never

    First time dating someone: A online relationship when I was 14. I was in the US, she was in Canada, so we never met or got physical. Probably the dumbest thing I ever did, she was pretty shady so I could have easily gotten hurt from it. Never been on a real date before.

    I'm 26.
     
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    Kiss
    - First official kiss: 15 during truth or dare; felt like my face was getting eaten
    - First "real kiss: 19 with a girl; she was a good kisser so it was nice
    - First gay kiss: 23; I was borderline blackout drunk when it happened, but the bits I remember were nice

    Sex
    - 19; with a girl, was alright I guess

    Dating
    - First gf was when I was 16 or 17 I think; long story short, it sucked
    - First serious gf was 19; was nice until she dumped me :frowning2:
    - First bf.... still waiting on that one (I do like being single though)


    I'm 24
     
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    First Kiss: Nope!
    First Sex (why does that sound so weird? "First sex"): Still no.
    First Relationship/Date: I've only ever been in one relationship and we had one date (we lived quite far apart) but I was 17 and it was actually really nice! I'm still friends with the person actually, we're definitely better off that way. We basically hung around this huge shopping centre and messed around, it was loads of fun.

    ---------- Post added 17th Nov 2016 at 05:08 PM ----------

    (And I'm 18, forgot to add.)
     
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    In the bed of my Chevy pickup next to a corn field. I'm a country boy, what can I say?:grin:
     
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    First girl kiss: Never
    First guy kiss: Never
    First actual sex: Never
    First anything sexual: Never
    First dating: Never
    First seeping in the same bed: Never
    First cuddle: Never

    ok .. I added a few from the original list .lol.
     
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    First Kiss: Best girl friend at the time, age 9, in my grandparent's travel trailer, we were having a sleepover.

    First guy Kiss: age 16, Done as a dare because the guy was my gay BFF and, a co-worker.

    First anything sexual: got caught masturbating in 2nd grade math class. (not counting abuse here)
    First actual sex: Age 17 with then girlfriend.
    First Real date: Age 16 with GF.
    First same bed: Age 17 with GF, we moved in together.
    First cuddle: age 16 with gay BFF after he got fired when the church camp found out he was gay.
     
  8. renard

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    First kiss: I remember kissing a lot of people in elementary school, but the first real, more "adult" kiss I had I was 18

    First sex: Never

    First time dating someone: I've gone on some dates and become emotionally involved with a few people, but nothing's ever stuck. The first person I was involved with, though: 17. All of these involvements were with girls, and I now wonder how capable I ever was of connecting with them romantically. (Though I felt SUPER emotionally close to 1-2 of them.)

    I know my saying this may not help too much, but I think milestones like these don't matter so much as being honest and open with yourself. I know it's a bit corny, but lately, I'm finding that being more open and less withholding has improved my relationships, as well as how I feel about myself. (The result being that I care less than I used to about said milestones.)

    Oh, and I'm 23.
     
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    First kiss: 13
    First girl kiss: 14
    First girlfriend: 15
    First sex with a woman: 16

    First girl kiss was amazing. First time sex with a woman was also amazing.
     
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    All at 19. Got my first boyfriend, first kiss, first date, and first time having sex all within 2 weeks of each other.
     
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    Boy compared to everybody else I'm a complete loser who hasn't been with anybody.

    Although I have had a couple girlfriends but they treated me like shit.
     
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    I've only kissed girls drunk. So there's that.
     
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    First Kiss: Never

    First Sex: Never (not counting abuse)

    First Date: Not sure if it counts, but I went on a sort of date with a guy last year. Things went really well and we planned on seeing each other again. I won't go into details but something happened later that night that kept the second date from happening.
     
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    First time I kissed someone I was 28.

    First time I had sex I was 30 or 31 I can't remember for sure. I remember the guy, I just can't remember exactly when it happened.
     
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    I actually had my first kiss 1 week ago and went on a date 2 weeks ago.
     
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    At 23 I had my first date, kiss and sex, all within 24 hrs.lol
     
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    Kiss: 11. While truth or dare.
    Date: 15.
    Sex: Not yet.
     
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    I haven't done any of these things because I haven't been open and honest with myself let alone with others. This year has been a bit of a transition year after coming out to my family. If any of these things do happen I think there will be a good chance of them happening from next year onwards.

    That being said, I'm more focussed on being me now than I am on all these external things, and I'm happy with how things are, so for the time being I'm not too fussed about any of this.
     
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    First Relationship: Online relationship in 2015
    First Gay Relationship: Started October 22nd, 2016, still happily in.
    First Date: Due to being in an online relationship as my first relationship, we never went on any dates because we lives 40 hours away from each other. I went on my first date yesterday, actually, with my girlfriend. It was amazing.
     
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    First kiss I think 15 with a girl. First sexual experiences years before with boys and I wish I would have kissed them. My first experience was a truth or dare "joking" and some things happened. Then we moved and my first intimate sharing and sex was with a good friend. It was wonderful when I lost my virginity and I would change nothing. We had explored curiosities and things long before so it wasn't by surprise or anything. The first time with the opposite sex was after another move. It was wonderful and lasted through the rest of high school and a few years. I don't share sexually with someone unless there is a relationship. I wish I could change some of the partners I have been with. Sex with either male or female has been amazing but I wouldn't want to change losing my virginity experience for anything.