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What's your ideal type of person when it goes about love?

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by SeulgiBunny, Nov 17, 2017.

  1. SeulgiBunny

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    My ideal type would be, first a nice person who can hear me whenever i need be heard because i'm very, very emotional and it is necessary, i'd that person loves me more than i could love her because it would make me feel secure, my personality is very cheerful and i'm very obsessive so i'd like someone who can stands me no matter when. Maybe i'm asking too much lol, it is not necessary if is atractive or not (but i'd like if is atractive); physically i don't know really, because physically people is really weird. i'd love someone who can love me really love me, i remember that one of my old lesbian crushes used to tell me everytime that i was cute and sweet, it would be really sweet if i find someone like her again<3.

    How about you?
     
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    - One who I can put in prison if they are heavily abusive towards me
    - One I can break-up a relationship from if they are relatively mildly abusive towards me
    - One who I won't feel forced to stay in a relationship with if they are hurtful, abusive or just generally not getting on

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    - Likes to make things for each other rather than buying gifts

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    - Ginger hair
    - Not extremely skinny or heavy - weight
    - Close to my height, within a foot either direction
    - Someone who I do find aesthetically pleasing (doesn't have to be a 9/10, just someone who makes my heart beat a bit faster and my lips smile when I'm looking at them)
     
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    One who is loving caring but fully commanding. I just submit into his arms and become his...
     
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    Loving, caring, loyal, more dominant than I am, nerdy interests
     
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    Passionate, caring, fun, adventurous
     
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    I'd like someone who loved me back...
     
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    Someone who loved me back.
     
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    Someone who is very laid back, sweet, twisted sense of humor, kind eyes and a beautiful smile.
     
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    really nice, polite, sweet, funny, and pretty!!
     
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    Someone who I can be both serious and silly with, and we both feel ready to share things (thoughts, feelings, regrets, triumphs, etc.) with each other. Having a creative side is pretty important. They need to have something they are passionate about, even if they are not doing it for a living and it's just a hobby they pursue in their spare time.
     
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    Yup second that! I'd like someone who is genuinely caring, loving and understanding too.
     
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    And someone who's not a show off. Confidence is good, yes, but so is being humble. I don't want someone who is too self absorbed.
     
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    I've had the pleasure of meeting someone like this a few years ago, he ain't gay, but boy do I wish he was.
    Honest, funny (in your own way) share of interests, trustworthy/loyal, no macho behavior, and generally the same mindset.

    I honestly doubt I'll find someone like him who is also interested in mentioned ever again, though it's nice to know that we get along very well.
     
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    My ideal girl is essentially my crush. She lives on the opposite side of the planet in China. Below are some details.

    Personality
    • introverted, but knows when to speak up
    • optimistic
    • independent
    • ambitious
    • able to speak honestly and openly about anything
    • shows love through little actions
    • easily enthusiastic
    Appearance
    • long black hair and black eyes
    • dresses femininely but not excessively so
    • cute smile
    • not too curvy
    • curly eyelashes and dark, full eyebrows
    • not too pale (as many Asian girls want to be)
    Miscellaneous
    • plays piano
    • speaks Chinese and English
    • exercises in some way
    • enjoys traveling
    • neither submissive nor dominant, but somewhere in the middle (like me)
    • super romantic
    This list is far too inadequate to describe how beautiful my crush is. Every girl I've ever liked I've consciously observed and put through my countless marriage suitability tests. She's passed all of them, and I've entirely stopped looking for anyone else. If I don't marry her, then I'll likely be single my whole life. (My chances with her are so small, though... Please help...)
     
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    Hmmm he's beautiful. Inside and out. He's got a really strong moral compass, a tender heart and a -beautiful- soul.
    He's kind and he's honest, sometimes to a fault. He's strong, the strongest man I know. And he's vulnerable..but only for me.
    He's talented and he's smart. .He's modest...doesn't even know that he's all these things...and that's just one more reason that I fell in love with him.

    I'm a better person, a kinder and more understanding person, just for knowing him. For loving him. He makes me -want- to be a better person, someone he can be proud of. Every single day.

    *Points to @Twist and grins* If you haven't figured it out...that's -exactly- my type
     
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    *Grins at @Gideon's reply* I love you so much.

    For me, to be honest, I never really thought about this all that much. Not when I was single, because I wasn't looking for a relationship with anyone... and not since I became Gideon's because... well because I have Gid.

    I find that people who daydream about their "ideal" rarely daydream about what they need in their lives. Instead, what they fantasize over what they see as the perfect person..... whether or not that "perfect person" is the perfect match for them.

    What I found with Gideon is a "perfect match" for me personally.... that has added aspects to my life I never would have imagined would better my life as a whole. I could go on for days and days about all the things I like about him, but a few of the qualities I treasure include his honesty, his tendency towards obsession, his strength and dominance, his weaknesses and yield, his understanding, his thoughtfulness, his loyalty.... there are so many things. Some of them (like his obsessiveness... and his dominance) are things it took time for me to get used to and that I never thought I'd appreciate in another person, and yet I do in him.