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whats the first thing you notice when you have a crush on someone

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  1. normalwolverine

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    I know I'm different on this, but it's nothing physical, really. It's usually their intelligence/the way they think. Usually, she'll say something that really triggers me, and it's like, "Yep, she's my kind of woman." With my latest crush, that eventually happened, but the first thing I really noticed was her sense of humor because it definitely surprised me that she was funny. I don't generally care whether or not a woman is funny, and I think one of the reasons why I was surprised is because, with very few exceptions, I don't really encounter women who are consistently naturally funny, i.e. not trying hard to be funny.
     
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    I agree with you about being able to detect a lesbian woman. I have known females that never in a million years think they are gay and turned out to be gay. Same with men but by far not as females.
     
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    On a guy...smile. On a girl boobs and hair.
     
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    For me it's actions. If the guy loves to be a service to others and protect them, then that's when my crush develops, also I love a killer smile
     
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    Confidence.
    Style.
    Eyes.
    Face.
    Body.

    In that order.
     
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    hair, eyes, smile, sense of humor, personality... and i really latch on to peoples face/voice!
     
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    There's certain physical things I notice about everyone, to be exact I normally immediately notice teeth, hands/fingernails, and shoes in that order. I'm not being judgemental it's out of habit and I just can't not notice these things.

    The first thing I notice when I have a crush on someone however is nothing at all physical nor to do with them.. The first thing I notice is my feelings increase towards the person and when around the person I go blank and normally end up saying just random or awkward things in which I will over-analyze later on. If the crush is intense I may think about them at random points throughout the day. I guess that's how I identify to myself that I have a crush, because that person will impact me internally/feelings wise.
     
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    I agree. This always seems like something most people don't think of, but I love the way someone's voice sounds. That is one thing that is so attractive to me.
     
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    i know right!
    this is weirdly nsfw so content warning
    but if im ever trying to have a fantasy if it isnt something/someone ive seen a lot of i cant think of it!!!
    content warning over back to normal stuff
    peoples face and voice are just...so good. whenever i think of a cute face and voice i think of my ex :')
     
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    I agree. It is easier to imagine something familiar I think. I don't think of a real life person all the time necessarily but I do think of celebrities for various movies or tv shows that I watch a lot.
     
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    i try that it doesnt always work because i dont know them
    kinda hard to move on from ur ex when u have no oppurtunities to move on :")
     
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    I'm sure it is much harder. I've never been in a relationship, so I have never dealt with that.
     
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    glad im not the only one who feels like that. its a damn dinger when you cant get a person out of your head. i cant get pleasure from random images of girls on the net or even a celebrity/character. fantasys become a lot harder to find, when you really like/liked someone
     
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    The first thing I notice? That I feel physically ill and I am in a weird place between running away from the person but also staying close enough to stalk them xD.

    But what do I notice about the person? It really depends. I notice I am more drawn to men who smile and are genuinely nice. I tend to ignore the "physical stuff" if their personality is amazing. Up to a point, of course, but it's amazing how the physical body doesn't matter when a person has a bombAF personality.
     
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    GOD I FEEL YOU....
     
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    This is so nice. I wish more people were like you, and more focused on the person than the appearance. That is the way I strive to be.
     
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    This is a good question! It certainly got me thinking about my own experiences. I'd say I notice my attraction to someone is a crush when I start feeling this fluttery, light feeling in my chest. Like my heart almost hurts from nerves and excitement because this person is giving me attention.
     
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    Her eyes, if it's covered, her sunglasses then :laughing:
     
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    The fact that I stare at them way to often. I think a lot of guys notice me checking them out but like, wow can I spend a long time looking at someone hot and not be bored. XD
     
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    hahaha This was totally me yesterday at the beach :grin: