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What's the earliest inkling you've had about your sexuality?

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  1. becKEY0011

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    Fantasizing girls since 5 or 6. Noticed guys at 10. Was in a monochromatic blur from 13 to 16 (which made me wonder if I was asexual) with a not so long lasting crush on a guy when I was 13(ish) and a little more intense crush on a girl at 15-16, didn't know how to define it back then. Fell hard for another girl at 17.
     
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    My very first crushes were all girls. :slight_smile:

    Also, having posters of famous women all over my walls, on my computer, desktop wallpapers... I have no idea how my parents did not think anything of it:joy::joy:

    I have always just "knew" that I like girls, it just took me a while to realize that I actually like guys too :wink:
     
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    Honestly so relatable. I used to spend hours tracking down porn on social media instead of using porn sites because I was afraid my parents could see everything I visited on my iPod.
     
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    I would say probably around age 10 I started to get an inkling of being gay. I can remember feeling "tingly" when sitting close to a guy in class and him touching my hand when we had to work on an assignment together. I remember a few weeks later 2 girls in my class thinking that same boy was cute and I remember agreeing, and feeling confused by agreeing with them.

    When I was in grade 8 (around age 13) my teacher gave a talk about how it was okay to be gay, and how a certain percentage of people in the class will be gay (ironically I know of at least 3 guys in that class of 30 who were gay and one girl who was bi). I must have had a stunned and confused look on my face because after class my "girlfriend" at the time came up to me and said "I saw your face during that talk. You're gay aren't you? No one else had that look on their face. You're embarrassed." She saw something in me that I clearly couldn't at that time, because it would be another decade before I could admit to myself I was gay.

    Most gay guys I know have said by about 12 (if not as early as 4 or 5!) they had *some* inkling they liked guys, and I think that's the same for me. Looking back, there was some horsing around with boys as a kid that I was, at very least, intrigued by.
     
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    I had sexual feelings for both genders since either 6th or 7th grade (I never really had sexual feelings before then). I am a senior in high school now. So I was pretty much born bisexual. I am still not out to most people because I don’t want to get rejected and ridiculed. I am not coming out until at least college.
     
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    I was 7. Watching Star Wars: Empire Strikes Back with my dad. Thought Princess Leia was really attractive. But of course I didn't even know that women could like other women, but I was never too concerned about attraction at that age. It wasn't until I was 11 maybe that I put it all together and realized that my first gay crush was Carrie Fisher.
     
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    When I was six I had a huge crush on a a girl in an older year. I didn't know it was a crush at the time, I just wanted her to talk to me, to be friend, I idolised her. I didn't realise the crushes I had had were crushes until I was fifteen and had my biggest crush ever. I fell in love with this girl and she wasn't that pretty, I had known her for less than a day and I was never going to see her again. She was part of a retreat team that came to our catholic school which is located right next to the towns church. I figured out I was gay sitting on a church pew feeling a little thrill because of that girls hand on my shoulder. I became even more agnostic that day because I had an epiphany about my sexuality in the house of God and nothing happened. After I thought I'm gay the rest of my life made so much sense.
     
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    I think around 11.
     
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    When I saw the show "Silver Spoons" in 1982 (I was 10) I couldn't stop going on to my dad how cute Ricky Schroeder was. So that was my first crush without realizing it (I didn't know what being gay was). He told me to keep that to myself. Not sure if he ever suspected or thought I grew out of it. He would have been fine with it but back in the mid to late 80's when I really knew, gay people still weren't accepted as easily as they are today so I'll probably die in the closet (being married and all).
     
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    When I was 10 going in 11... a group of friends were always together and one day we were at a gravel pit. One of the girls dared us all to strip. There were 4 guys and 3 girls and we all stripped. One older boy was 13 and going through puberty. He walked around showing off, I couldn’t get him off my mind. Even though I didn’t know about being gay, I never stopped thinking about him for a long time. Silly story, but that’s when I knew I liked boys instead of girls. I grew up in a house where nobody was ever open about their body. That was the first time I remember seeing someone naked, much less with hair down below. Even for a young kid, it made a huge impact on me! Finally came out 6 months ago- I’m 52, but I’ve never even kissed a guy. Hope that changes sometime soon.
     
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    Looking back I was allways super gay ive kissed other boys scince i was well before I was 5 but I never put 2+2 together until I was 13-14 then it was just like ahh that's gay yes that would be an apt. description of me.
     
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    When I was about 12 or 13 that’s when i knew I had feelings for girls before that I was not even thinking about boys then I plucked up courage at talk to a girl I had a crush on and the was glad to find out she liked me I remember my parents thinking I was strange and there was something wrong with me lol
     
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    I don't remember the exact age but, I remember being in grade school and feeling a weird, warm feeling when thinking about a close friendship with a guy I knew. We weren't friends and had nothing in common, he was kind of the alpha male type, and I felt a longing to be around him. It confused me at the time and I pushed it out of my head until high school rolled around and I figured the whole thing out.
     
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    I was 7 or 8 and had a first mad crush on a girl at church :slight_smile: and then was into girls and guys from then on.
     
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    When I was about 6 or so. I remember looking in women's magazines wishing I could wear everything a female could wear. And ever since puberty I have been wanting to be female.
     
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    Having a crush on a teacher. Didn't realise that until end of high school about 6 or more years later :slight_smile: