You are missing the target by light years by asking what is the upside of being single gay guy. If you don't want to be alone then there is no upside no matter what and no matter what potential upsides we list you would not be satisfied.To me it sounds like your problem is not being a single and gay. However, being a single is a symptom of your issue. Based on this thread you have said 3 things about yourself: - you don't have friends - other ppl don't like you - things were easier if you were straight You said other people don't like you and that's why you don't have friends. Let's just assume for a second this is true (I suspect it isn't but just for the arguments sake lets assume it is). Have you stopped and asked yourself why don't people like you? Surely people don't just automatically hate you just by seeing you.