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What would you do?

Discussion in 'LGBT Later in Life' started by LostInDaydreams, Feb 19, 2017.

  1. LostInDaydreams

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    Sorry to start another thread!

    There is part of me that feels I should give my current relationship another chance, and put some real effort into it.

    However, based comments my partner has made over the last week or so, I think he might have worked out what's wrong. He said that I've changed as a person over the last year, which about matches up to when I started questioning.

    So, if a conversation about our relationship comes up, do I be honest about questioning, or not mention it and say I want to give it another go?

    I find the prospect of telling him terrifying. I think I'll probably take the cowardly option anyway. I feel terrible that it's got to the point where he's potentially worked it out.
     
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    Honesty is always the best option in my opinion even if it causes issues, you can't live a lie (&&&)
     
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    I have been in this place. I don't think it is helpful to conceal this stuff longer term, however painful or terrifying. I would be honest about your feelings. He knows something is wrong and will be further hurt by knowing he is being kept in the dark.