If I get accepted to college, and everything goes to plan, I'll be moving out of my house and will most likely be living in a dorm (99.99...% chance of dorm; parents don't want me even considering apartments). Once I get settled and all that, and I feel good and ready to start taking the first real steps towards transition, what do I do first? What do I look to do period? Do I immediately go and tell the school, visit a therapist or counselor, or visit a local LGBT center or organization first? Like, who do I see and in what order? I know the first thing I want to do when I'm safe away in college is get my hair styled, cut, and dyed but I also want to maintain a low profile while I'm still testing the waters sort-to-speak. I want to adjust and adapt and get used to things before being all gung-ho about it. I also kinda want to be quite about being Trans and transition and stuff, and kinda like don't really want to talk about with strangers (unless they ask and I feel okay with it). Like, if somebody in class asks me if I'm Transgender, I kinda don't want to talk about it. I want to blend in and operate under the radar. Plus I also kinda want to put school and work as my top priorities. School is 1, work is 2, transition is 3. I've also never walked around and been out and everything, like, I've only told my mom and sister and I'm not exactly walking around being open about it. I understand that I'm going to need to do a lot of work to accept myself and "normalize" myself in my mind. That's something I'm going to have to deal with no matter what. It's easy to be openly Trans here, when I'm hiding under my blanket and nobody IRL knows. But, it's like something that I keep as a deep secret. A lot of things I keep to myself and just stay quite and go with the flow, but I don't want that anymore. I want to go somewhere and start a new life and feel free and safe. I'm probably going to have a lot of trouble trying to accept myself and actually muster the strength to do what I want and be open about myself. Like, I can't bring myself to tell even my own family a lot about myself because they alienate it and make me feel bad just because of who I am. Like, I'm scared to tell people I like warm cuddles and passionate romance and all that gushy stuff. This all connects to transition and how I have to start. I don't know what to do when (IF) I get to college and can start transitioning. Where do I go? Who do I turn to? Who's going to help me? What should I be doing to prepare myself mentally and physically? How should I go about it? What can I do financially? How can I hide most of this from my parents? My parents pay most of my expenses, I'm very much a dependent, how can I get them to pay for these things? They're probably going to see stuff on the bills and interrogate me about it. What should I do? Or be doing?